Unconditional Love…

Unconditional Love…

When I first got involved in Innate Health, I heard a lot about unconditional love being the answer, no matter what the problem might be. Back then, it sounded nice, but meaningless, to me. I was stepping into this new world from a life that was totally transactional, a life of “If…then”. If I got this contract, then I could give my employees a Christmas bonus; if my daughter got straight A’s, then we would take her to DisneyWorld; if I lost five pounds, then I could wear the red dress to the party… Everything was conditional, including love. Both my husband and I would say things to each other that started with, “If you really loved me, you would…”

Now, 30-some years later, it is so vividly true to me that unconditional love is the answer to everything that it brings tears to my eyes just to think about it. Unconditional love has nothing to do with human transactions. Unconditional love arises in the spirit. It is the pure, uninhibited joy of being alive and integral to the universe.

Conditionality is a human transaction, a product of thought that imposes ideas on how things should be. We make and believe in our own assumptions without any understanding that they are our fabrications. We do not embrace the unpredictable variability of life or of everyone and everything in it. Anything we find acceptable must conform to our opinions and expectations. We reject people and things that don’t fit our ideas or do not make sense within our world view.

Unconditionality is the inchoate vitality before formed thought. It presents no judgment about life or anything in it. We surrender to the flow of it. Without expectations or judgments, we are immersed in being. Unpredictability, variability do not look disorderly or strange as life unfolds moment-to-moment. It just is. We just are. Everything is rich, fascinating, and materializing in the moment.

Unconditionality is profound love of life, of the beautiful energy surging through the universe and through us, and of the wonder of being united with the essential formless force, and yet creating our own passage within it. Unconditional love is the fullness of heart that emerges from pure appreciation of all of it — the darkness and the light, the perfect and the imperfect, the same and the different, the known and the unknown. Unconditional love is deep, soothing peace. In the “isness” of the universe,  there is nothing and no one to fear. We are safe in each present moment in the emerging wisdom that is always available to us. Wisdom is the knowledge that binds the universe together through the creative dynamic of being.

Why is the state of unconditional love the answer, no matter the problem?

The simple fact is that a person who is living with a free and clear mind in that unconditional feeling of gratitude and reverence for life does not bring to mind thoughts of harming or being harmed. No selfish, greedy thoughts. No mean, hurtful thoughts. No disappointed, discouraged thoughts. No resentful, vengeful thoughts. No anxious, fearful thoughts. That state of mind, that state of being, brings with it access to the flow of wisdom and confidence, moment-to-moment, that we can count on to guide us through life’s ups and downs. Wisdom propels us forward. Entertaining negative or dysfunctional or destructive thinking feels wrong and unpleasant if it enters the mind.  Those who understand the nature of thought turn away from such ideas — just allow them to pass without action — and look to quiet their thinking and embrace wisdom once more.

Is it unrealistic or even wildly pollyanna to imagine that such a state could come to dominate the experience of humanity? That is an unanswered question. Until we turn our backs on the belief that the content of our personal thinking is more important than our understanding of the true spiritual being through which we are generating that thinking, we will not know the answer. Beliefs seem powerful. They look very real to us while they are on our minds, especially when we don’t know how they got there. As more and more people come to recognize themselves as the agents of life, rather than seeing circumstances as the agency of their life, the ease with which humanity can find personal peace of mind and act from wisdom increases. When wisdom informs more and more of human choices, we will live in a different world, grounded in peace and hope, filled with unconditional love.

Once unconditional love is illuminated as the quintessential power to live, then who would not want to call it home? Who would willingly turn away from natural peace and joy?

 

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European Tour III: Day 23 – From Russia with Love

Day 23, Monday, July 13, 2015

I must say I love the feeling of the love-fest that happens by the end of one of these long trainings. This one in Moscow was no exception. It apparently went great. People seemed thrilled; so many new insights.

Peter said my 3P trainings are different from any other he’s experienced; that somehow I create a space for people to have lots of insights and he doesn’t know how I do it. I’m not sure how I do it either, but it does seem to happen.

Everyone in Russia has been so wonderful to me. I got lavished with gifts by the end of this training, which I am not very comfortable with, but I appreciate it greatly.

And then there was Inna, who shared translation duties with Lana and put Masha and me up for my last night here, who was truly wonderful.

We had a session late into the night on seeing innocence and forgiveness. And no one could have taken better care of me during my entire stay than Masha. And [I want to thank] Lana and Peter for bringing me here. And Tanya for sharing her home with me. And Olga for giving me that healing and just being who she is. So many wonderful people. I will be forever indebted to all of them.

I am so glad I came here. I told everyone at the end of the training that I realized I had fearful thinking about Russia before I came (probably courtesy of the American government), and I could not have been more wrong.

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EuroTrip Day 30: Healing in Camden

Day 30, Wednesday, May 20, 2015

I spent the day with Sylvie Wallis, a healer I had met last year in the French Alps at the same time I met Kay, and she was now in London visiting her parents. Sylvie had given me a powerful healing a year ago that had gotten cut short because I had to run to catch a train, and now she gave me another. By the time she got through with me I felt more grounded, more solid. I highly recommend her; so what if you have to get up to Morzine, France in the Alps to get to her?
Anyway, we had a healing great day together and it was great to be with her. We spent a good part of the day in Camden, which is sort of like the Greenwich Village of London. They have the all-time great framers-market-type place there; tiny shops and food stands upon tiny shops. But I spent the night in Camden in a real hole–I had to stay in a place that cost very little because all presenters only volunteer at the conference and my training got cancelled in Edinburgh.
I’m definitely ready to go home after being overseas for a month now; then I realized I have no home to go to. I do have a condo in Florida that I have to move into, and all my stuff is in Vermont. But with my more solid feeling now (meaning, more solid thoughts—thoughts at a higher level of consciousness), I feel like I can handle it. I’m still feeling gratefulness. At least that’s the way I feel right now.

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Joy to the World!

I wish Joy to the world, not only during this holiday season, but always.

Joy is the deeply beautiful feeling that connects us to all of life, beyond our differences and before our fears. It is innate to all people, and readily accessible, but, like a rainbow peeking through storm clouds, easily obscured or overlooked. It is born of quietude, a mind at peace, immersed in the present. We fall into joy naturally. The feeling wells up from within our spirit as we simply allow our minds to come to rest. Regardless of turbulence around us, joy elicits calm, certainty, wisdom, understanding and unconditional love. It lifts us away from anxiety and towards transcendent responses to all of life’s challenges. The power of joy is far greater than the pressure of distress.

For a few years now, I have offered programs at the Women’s Resource Center in Bradenton, Florida, that have the word “Joy” in their titles, most recently, “Get Your Joy Back!” On the first night, I ask participants what drew them to the program. Most often, the responses are something like, “I had forgotten all about joy. It seems like something for little children that we don’t have as adults. But I saw the title and I realized I really would love to have joy back in my life. I just didn’t think it was possible.”

Why not? Once we awaken to the way the human mind works, anything is possible. The very same power that brings us worry, upset, stress, despair can also generate joy when we recognize it and see how we use it to create our reality. We leave joy behind when we get into the habit of thinking too much about everything, trying to rely solely on our intellect to arrive at answers. In my mind, the reason little children are so filled with joy is that their whole world is about discovery, about a constant flow of insights, one Aha! moment after another. Every new experience is a delight, a learning, a chance to see and know something fresh. Children don’t overthink. They don’t know, and that’s OK with them; they wonder and they realize. They live in the moment; untroubled by the past and unafraid of the future. They’re sad, they’re happy, they’re silly, they’re serious. they’re angry, they’re loving — they just move through whatever they’re feeling and let it go when new feelings arise, without any judgment or effort to hold onto one or drop another. They are humble; they don’t have a lot of ideas about what they should be or should be able to do. They jump into life and live it to the fullest!

The only reason growing up brings an end to that is that we learn to take our thinking seriously and we lose that graceful ease of moving from one thought to another, moment to moment. Instead of thought serving our curiosity and bringing us ever more insights about life, thought takes on weight and volume and we learn to bear it like a burden and try to take charge of it.

It’s pointless to try to figure out how and why that happens. But it makes sense to understand that we all have within us the power to stop it from happening, no matter how long it’s been going on.  We never lose the capacity for joy; we’re born with it and it is as much a part of us as the beating of our hearts. We never lose the ability to dance with life, moving effortlessly through the darkness and the light.

We rediscover our intrinsic joy when we see for ourselves the remarkable gifts we were given to lead our lives, the gifts of Mind, Consciousness and Thought. We don’t have to “do” anything to use them to create a joyful life. All we need is to recognize when we are overriding the natural flow of thoughts and turn away, leaving our thinking alone to right itself. Those gifts are spiritual, not actual. They are creation. They bring us into creation. We are parts of the infinitude of creation, just as molecules of water are part of the ocean, and there could be no ocean without them, nor could they be without the ocean. Mind is universal energy, life itself. Thought is the power we have to use that energy to create our personal ideas, to navigate our own way. Consciousness is the power we have to be aware of what we are thinking, to see and feel life in action. These forces are, like gravity, eternally true and always at work, whether we know it or not. When we do know it, we know better than to interfere by using our power to think against ourselves. Knowing that we are creating reality, knowing that we are the thinkers of our own thoughts, we can see that our moment-to-moment thinking creates moment-to-moment changes in our feelings about life. When we cling to thinking that brings bad feelings in an effort to overcome it, or fix it, or change it, we just hold those feelings in place. When we see it is the nature of thought to flow and change, we can use bad feelings as reminders that we are thinking too hard, filling our heads with extraneous thoughts, interrupting the spiritual flow of the present moment. We can take bad feelings as a signal to slow down, turn to quiet.

Joy is the wise and lovely state we enter as soon as we find faith and gratitude that, although we were given the power to think our way into anything, we can use that power to clear our heads and start fresh. Now. No thought has power over us; we’re making all of them up for ourselves. We can discard any thought in an instant, as readily as we created it.

So, look to joy. A river of answers to all our perceived problems flows through that precious state of being.

 

P.S. If you are interested in a deeper exploration of Joy, please consider joining me and my wonderful colleagues Bill Pettit and Christine Heath for a four-day retreat in June, 2015:

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Gratitude: a route to inner peace

Without any plan to do this, I have slipped into the habit, as I lay down to sleep, of thinking of something or someone from the past day for which I am grateful. And then, when I awaken, thinking of something I am grateful to look Into the lightforward to in the new day. Often, I am surprised by what comes to mind. Almost always, they are small things, or momentary unexpected encounters with people, that elicit a smile and a peaceful feeling. Sometimes, they are big things — pivotal moments in my life or opportunities that changed things for me completely. The effect is the same. Finding gratitude brings with it peace.

It occurred to me to share this experience with a client I saw recently who complained that she had trouble sleeping because as soon as she went to bed, her head filled with all the negative, unpleasant events of the past day, and she always awakened dreading what might happen today. As she talked, I remembered years of my life when I did that, too. Without any understanding of what I was doing, I would catalogue the negative events and the mistakes I had made as I went to bed, I would sleep fitfully, and I would wake up with my schedule and all its demands on my mind. I was always tired and out of sorts. I thought it was because my life was a pressure-cooker of demands and disappointments. Now I know it was because I had no idea what I was doing to myself with my own power to think.

My heart went out to my client because she really was exhausted and overwhelmed. She was jittery and on the verge of tears, and she confessed that she spent most of her days that way, drinking copious amounts of coffee to keep going and fighting off depression as she tried to get her job done and take care of her family. She said she always had a “looming sense of disaster.”

She was taken aback when I asked her if she had anything in her life for which to be thankful. “I’m sure I must,” she said, “I just never think about that.” I suggested we take a little time to think about that now.

It took her a few minutes to redirect her thinking, but then she started listing things. Her two children were healthy and happy in school. She had a secure job that paid well enough for her to get by as a single Mom without too much worry. She liked her landlord and she lived in a safe place that was well taken care of. Her parents lived nearby and enjoyed babysitting so she could get out sometimes. She liked the Church she attends and had good friends there. Her ex-husband paid child support regularly and, although he lives far away and never sees them, he does remember the children’s birthdays and holidays. She has a good friend who invites her and her children to a cabin in the NC mountains in the summer so they get to take an inexpensive vacation that the whole family enjoys.

As she slowly worked through this list, she relaxed, and her whole demeanor brightened. “I guess I really have a lot going for me,” she said sheepishly. “So why am I always so down on my life?”

She had opened the door to seeing something completely new to her:  What we call “life” is actually our moment-to-moment experience of the thinking we are bringing to mind about life. I explained to her that the little exercise we had just completed could be mistaken for “positive thinking” — but that the power behind it is NOT the power to fix or change the content of our thoughts. It’s realizing how easily each one of us can let some thoughts pass and entertain others, and knowing that the true power behind our perceptions is that we are making everything up — good and bad. That is the gift of the spiritual nature of life, the gift TO think. When we don’t know that we are the thinkers, it appears to us that we have no choice; when negative thinking floods our minds, or when we get in the habit of taking everything negative that comes to mind more seriously than other things, we spiral into misery and it starts looking like there’s no way out.

I asked, “Do you think you could have refused when I asked you to think of things for which you could be thankful?”

“Of course,” she said.  “I almost did. I wondered why you would want to waste my time not talking about my problems.”

“Then why did you decide to go along with it?”

“I don’t know. You seem like a nice person who wants to help me. It was kind of a refreshing request. So many people I have gone to for help have taken me deeper into all the bad stuff and I end up feeling worse. The idea of stepping away from it appealed to me. And then, once I started, I was surprised by how easy it was to keep coming up with more things.”

“So you were actually directing your own thoughts the whole time? You could have chosen to think anything, but you liked the idea of bringing different kinds of thoughts to mind.”

“Yes, I guess so. But what does that mean?”

“It means,” I said, “you are free. You do not have to live as the victim of your own most distressing thinking. You can think anything, and you can take whatever you think more or less seriously. It means your power to think your way through life is the key to the quality of your experience.”

“Wow,” she said. And she asked me to explain more about that. She began to look inside, at the power described by the Principles of Mind, Consciousness and Thought. I saw her twice more, and then she thanked me and said that she was fine. She would call me if she needed any more help, but she really felt confident that she was realizing her own strength and everything was changing for the better.

That night, she came to mind as I lay down to sleep. I am deeply grateful for the work I get to do as a Mental Health Educator.

I leave you with this from Sydney Banks:

Gratitude and satisfaction have wonderful effects on our souls. They open our minds, clearing the way for wisdom and contentment to enter. Once you become grateful, the prison bars of your mind will fall away. Peace of mind and contentment will be yours.”              The Missing Link p. 131.

 

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Anne Marie’s Story – shared by Janet Lindsay

lindsayMy probation officer told me the Simple Truths programme would benefit me emotionally and mentally. At the time I was in a deep dark hole, I just wasn’t able to get out of. I was depressed, I was stressed, I suffered from anxiety attacks and I was taking really strong antidepressants.

I’d been to counselling and a psychologist, and basically they told me I was depressed and to keep taking the medication.

The first time I attended, I thought that it just wasn’t for me.  This woman, Janet, didn’t know anything about my life, she knows nothing about me. I was like a time bomb just waiting to go off. I was sad depressed angry, frustrated. I knew deep down I had to change for the sake of the children, I felt like no-one could help me and I hated being like this.

Janet spoke about Mind, Thought and Consciousness, how could a woman talking about the 3 Principles change my life, but it did.  I began to realise the way I was, was down to my thinking and baggage from the past.  I realised I was carrying all the baggage that didn’t need to be carried.

I emptied all the baggage from my mind.

This group has been my inspiration, I’m a totally new woman.  I’m getting back to being me!  I’ve got my self confidence back, I’m positive again.

I just needed someone to show me the way.

Lisa’s Story – shared by Janet Lindsay

When I started the course I was down and desperately trying to make my ex understand I wasn’t taking him back. It was an awful relationship and I kept taking him back hoping it would work. I blamed him for being in debt and in trouble.

I thought the course was all about common sense when it first started until I met Becky. As I listened to her, it all just seemed to make sense. I really enjoyed the rest of the course, I always left with a light, bubbly excited feeling.

I {now realise} I have no-one to blame but myself for the mess I got in. There is light at the end of the tunnel though:

– My ex has given in, he can’t handle the simplified version

– My probation has finished

– My debts are going slowly

– I’m happy so my children are happy

– We are moving to a new house in a few weeks.

It’s crazy how one thought sorted it all in my head and I changed, so everything around me is changing.

I will be eternally grateful to Debs for suggesting the course, and Janet for running it and Becky for just being Becky. I will never forget the Principles.

 

Shared by Janet Lindsay

janet@jrtandc.com

European Tour Day 66: End of the tour

Day 66, May 5.

Jack Pransky tour t shirtWell, there were other people I would have liked to see, such as my cuz’ Aaron Turner and his mother, Elaine, and Jamie Smart, and a few other people who had contacted me and asked if I could get together with them, but I was simply all filled up and just needed to be alone, and it felt glorious.

Shirley Scott, from my first Spain training, picked me up in the morning to take me to the airport and to have a meal before I got on the plane. A delightful talk with a delightful person. I’ve always liked Shirley so much. I remember very clearly a huge moment she had in my Spain training last year.

Then, just like that, trip over. Tour over! Time to check in. Unfortunately my plane was delayed an hour and 10 minutes. Way more unfortunate, I apparently told Amy I was coming in a night earlier—I got a phone call from her. She spent the night being worried about me. I felt so bad. Ugh!

Landed in Boston, from whence I started. Long lines in customs. Had to get the Silver Line (a combination subway-bus) directly to South Station, where after waiting 45 minutes, I caught a commuter train south of Boston to Sharon (the town in which I grew up), where my cousin, Jeanne had left my car for me and hid the keys.

By this time it was late and I hadn’t slept in a really long time, except for about 45 minutes on the plane, but I wanted to get home, so I took the long 4-hour drive back to Vermont. I just pumped myself with all kinds of bad stuff: an ice cream bar, a Dr. Pepper (for caffeine) and m&m’s peanuts and bit the bullet and did it.

I have taken this drive hundreds of times over the years, but from being so tired I must have spaced out for a moment because I missed a turn and went 15 minutes out of my way (and 15 back) before I realized I was off. Just what I needed. I finally pulled in to Moretown at about 1:30 AM, drove up the driveway, tiptoed into the house, snuck into bed beside Amy, and I was home.

After being on the road for 2+ months, moving from place to place, lugging my bags around, being with one great person after another, the fact that it has come to an end is unfathomable to me.

So many things had to fall into place for it to happen.

First, I had the thought because of Amy—probably never would have happened had we not agreed to be apart for two months.

Then I remember last October, sitting on the beach at Albir, Spain with Sue Pankiewicz, later joined by Sheela and Katja, kicking around the idea of whether a European Tour was feasible.

Then I put out some feelers to a few people. Then people started coming out of the woodwork, and I had more work and more places to stay than I knew what to do with.

How it all fell into place was nothing short of astounding. This trip and Tour surpassed my expectations beyond all imagination. I am so happy I did it. Now I need to recover for a while.

So many people to thank

From the bottom of my heart I thank so many people who helped me out, put me up, took care of me, and arranged trainings and seminars on the Jack Pransky Three Principles European Tour.

First, the preliminaries: All the people I mentioned above, plus Frank Gerryts for twisting my arm to write this blog and for posting them all on my website and Facebook; and my cousin, Jeanne Moss, for keeping my car while I was gone. And especially to those all along the way:

Sue Pankiewicz – Colchester, England
Karen Raimbault – Paris, France
Veronique Pivetta and Gordon Swartz – Brussels, Belgium
Jos Wielink – Rhenen and Amsterdam, The Netherlands
Mette Louise Holland and Mia Sejstrup – Soro, Denmark
Lise Dardanelle (and Natasha Swerdloff) – Trkob and Copenhagen, Denmark
Elisabeth Karlehav and Viktoria – Stockholm, Sweden
Fredrik Kinnman – Lund, Sweden
Andrea Wolansky – Ratzeburg, Germany
Katja Symons (and Bruce) – Berlin, Germany
Tammy Furey – Zurich and St. Gallen, Switzerland
Anthony Davis and Kay Evans (and Sylvie Walls) – St. Jean D’Aulps and Morzine, France
Megan and Willy Paterson (and Rauna) – Geneva, Switzerland
Monica Fava, Allesandro and Ciara Saramin – Milan, Padova and Mantova, Italy
Peppe Longo – Belpasso, Sicily
Amanda O’Shea (and Fran Stutely) – Javea, Spain
Sheela Masand and Mark Jones – Albir, Spain
Nuno Arrais – Porto, Famalicao and Lisbon, Portugal
Teal, Ms. “Wild Events”- who arranged all my transportation while in the UK
Denise Holland –West Mailing, Kent, England
Jacqueline Bennett (and Janet Lindsay) – Birmingham, England
Victoria Green – Shelley, Huddersfield, England
Christian McNeill (and Lynne Robertson) – Glasgow, Scotland
Jacquie Forde – Edinburgh, Scotland
Sue Anderson and Bernie Parks (and Julian Freeman) – Saltburn and Middlesbrough, England
Steve Adair and Tony Fiedler (and Janet Lindsay) – Brighton, England
Chantal Burns – St. Albans, England
Kirsty Hanley and Russell Davis – London, England
Rudi and Jenny Kennard – London, England
Tikun (Shoshana Kahan and Terri Rubenstein) – London, England
Shirley Scott – London, England

I just can’t even begin to tell you how much it meant to me for you to do what you did for me. I am forever grateful.

Been there, done that, got the t-shirt?

By the way, if anyone out there reading this either has the means to make a T-shirt or has connections with someone who does, please email me at jack@healthrealize.com. Enough people have actually said they’d be interested in having one that I’ve started to consider the possibility of that crazy idea.

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