Jack’s Three Principles Travel Blog Monday, January 8, 2018

The problems began almost immediately when the night before I began to feel a bad cold or virus coming on. I did not feel good at all. People in the family picked it up in California and brought it back, and now just before leaving on my trip, I got it. Bad timing!  That morning I heard my first flight might be cancelled due to inclement weather in Newark, New Jersey. A few hours later it was in fact cancelled. Jamal’s day off! But they have an emergency number. But the emergency number connect me to his office, where a nice man tried to help me through the mess, and it wasn’t easy, finally finding a way to put on another flight leaving 2 ½ hours away in Washington DC. I had to drive there, and didn’t have much time to spare. It was sprinkling rain, and now it was getting heavier. It had been freezing cold in Virginia and I saw ice form on the corner of the windshield. Being from Vermont I knew this was a sign of freezing rain. Sure enough, all the cars on the road began to slow down, including me, and I knew I was not going to make it to my connecting flight in DC. Even though I was almost half-way there, wisdom told me to turn around. I again called the travel agent. He worked really hard again to try to set me up with something else, but it would have to be tomorrow and would cost more money.

Luckily, for such a complicated trip, I had the foresight to get flight insurance. With an insurance claim we only would have to pay a little over $100 more out of pocket, but that was by continuing to use the return flight the way it was originally.

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Removing Burden

On the heels of last week’s article, http://garretkramer.com/why-the-theory-of-personal-responsibility-is-irresponsible/, and the multitude of questions that ensued, here’s more on why most of us habitually try to take on the burden of personal responsibility, and why it’s never, ever, in our best interest.

To me, it’s fascinating. From being written in scripture to being uttered by virtually every sage, spiritual teacher, or great coach throughout history, “Look within for the answers you seek” is wisdom that seems to have stood the test of time. But, in truth, this wisdom has only served those who’ve grasped its real meaning. And, regrettably, most of us have not.

In other words (throughout history), most of us have innocently assumed that the word “within” means that God, consciousness, inspiration, or salvation lies within us; within our bodies, or within the separate or personal self. But “within” actually means “entos,” which, translated from Greek, means “in the midst of.”

So, to be precise, the term “look within” means that:

A.  Your body lies within (in the midst of) God or consciousness.
B.  God or consciousness does not lie within you.

And this is not a semantic difference.

In my years of experience in the world of mental-performance coaching, I’ve never met a person who didn’t feel uneasy, and even squirm a bit, whenever a teacher, counselor, or coach pointed them within their physical bodies, or within themselves, for inspiration or salvation. Why did they squirm? Because, again, God/consciousness doesn’t lie within them; they lie within it. And intuitively, every human being knows this. They also know that it’s a waste of energy to dig and dig and dig in a personal quest to find something that’s just not there.

Keep in mind: Truth removes burden. Mistruth multiplies it. A helper helps remove burden not by pointing others to the made-up (and burden-enhancing) theory of personal responsibility or “it’s in you.” But by guiding others to the comfort of consciousness. By reminding them that they are not separate; that the universe has their back; that they rest within God’s arms—always.

Thank you for reading,
Garret

Jack’s Three Principles Travel Blog January 2018

I’m not sure why I write these things, but a few people seem to be interested for some strange reason, so I do. In this one I’m moving beyond Europe. Damian Smythe asked me if I wanted to do a follow-up on my latest book, Seduced by Consciousness, and in the Cape Verde Islands. Not only had I never been to the Cape Verde islands, I didn’t even know where they were. I looked them up on a map. Off the coast of Africa. I’m going! Damian had originally asked me if I wanted to do a webinar course on the book, and we did and it seemed to go well. So now we’re delving deeper into the mysteries of consciousness, which is what the retreat is about.

The trip started off with the wonders of a travel agent. It seemed too complex for my limited mind to get from Charlottesville, Virginia to Sal Island, Cape Verde—it looked like an even worse itinerary from hell than my last European trip. It said it would take me three days to get there! I had to leave two days early just to be able to make it for some exploration and holiday before working. So I broke down and got myself a travel agent. I will never go on a long trip without one again. I highly recommend Jamal Shah at Flight Center. And it’s a good thing I used him. Not because they could get me there any sooner—it still will take me three days—but he arranged to get me there for less money, and he took excellent care of me before it and along the way.

 

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Why the Theory of Personal Responsibility Is Irresponsible

I’m about to make a claim that many of you will take umbrage with. How do I know? Because I’ve made this claim to every person, group, or audience I’ve ever stood before, and that’s precisely what’s happened (at first). In spite of that fact, here goes:

There’s no such thing as personal responsibility.

In other words, you don’t possess the personal power to control or coordinate your thoughts, choices, or behaviors. Taking umbrage? If yes, it’s cool, just consider these simple questions: Do you control the millions of processes that are taking place within your body right now? Do you control your mood? Do you control your reflexes? Do you control whether or not you cry at the movies?

If you’re honest, the answer to all of these questions is no.

So, then, why are you living under the false assumption that it’s you who’s personally responsible for your thoughts, choices, and behaviors? I mean, is it actually possible that you’re not responsible for or don’t control 99.99 percent of what takes place within you, yet you do control .01 percent? Seriously?

Actually, I don’t blame you at all. “Control what you can control” is a familiar mantra thrown around in virtually all coaching and self-help circles today—with attitude, effort, positivity, and body language being among the so-called “controllables.” Yet, the surprising truth is: Those who buy into the notion that they’re personally responsible for their comportment and actions are the ones most bound-up and sullen. They’re the ones whose behavior is most out of control.

And here’s the reason:

The human experience appears to flow between clarity and clutter; between wholeness and separateness; between humility and ego; between non-duality and duality; between the impersonal and personal (and it’s normal for it to appear this way). From the personal—or standpoint of the separate self—we feel insecure, alone, and distinct from the world. From the impersonal—or standpoint of the True Self (consciousness, God)—there are no distinctions between ourselves and the world. Now, when the separate self shows up, those who don’t know that it’s normal will attempt to manually find their way back to a safe feeling of wholeness and connection. But since human beings don’t possess the power to shortcut the human experience, in trying to do so they actually get in the way of what would have occurred intuitively (had they not manually intervened). That is, in trying to exert personal responsibility or control over something that can’t be controlled, they obstruct their intuitive ability to return to the impersonal standpoint of the True Self from which everyone, and I mean everyone, will behave in concert with the universe or greater good.

Remember: Sometimes you’ll feel separate (that’s normal) and sometimes you won’t (that’s normal, too). One feeling is not better than the other, so trying to choose between the two is never in your best interest. As the title of this article suggests: Adopting the false theory of personal responsibility or burden breathes life into the separate self—who will always behave irresponsibly.

Thank you for reading,
Garret

A New Year’s Message for Millennials

Two weeks ago, at the end of a presentation, I was asked this question: “What would your advice be for today’s younger generation?” Practically word for word, here was my answer. I hope you find it helpful.

“Be encouraged by those who implore you to speak up and take a resolute stand on injustice. The world today needs courageous young leaders in the mold of Martin Luther King Jr., Gloria Steinem, Jackie Robinson, and Harvey Milk. However, I cannot stress enough the significance of not falling for today’s way-too-common message that tries to try to teach you to be offended. This message is sweeping across college campuses and it’s a main theme on social media. To be clear, when it comes to my personal stance on most social issues, I lean to the left. But someone like Donald Trump cannot make me, or you, feel a certain way. And the more you take his or anyone’s actions personally, the less resourceful, insightful, and courageous you become. It’s simple, you cannot change the world for the better if you’re living under the misconception that what takes place in the world has the power to offend you. This misconception causes you—in a quest to feel better—to attack those who see things differently than you. And this holds mankind’s perpetual cycle of hate and prejudice in place.

In other words, avoid messages that suggest that someone or something can affect the way you feel; messages that indicate that your experience of life is contingent on circumstances or events going the way you or a specific ideology says they should; messages that infer that you’re better than others; messages that claim that human beings experience life from outside to in.

Rather, to change the world for the better, please understand that the world, and everything in it, does not exist separate from you—and you don’t exist separate from it. It’s this overwhelming sense of separation, and the pain that follows, that causes dysfunctional behavior. It causes people to cope, lash out, show aggression, and shun. No matter how you may feel, every sentiment, emotion, or state of mind—everything you experience—is sourced from within, from consciousness, from God. This means that what you experience can never be wrong, or bad, or damaging. You cannot mend what’s not broken—and you can never be. When you recognize this: that you are perpetually whole, capable, and connected; without trying, you’ll regulate back to resilience, determination, and compassion. Answers will rise up and changes of heart will occur. Universal wisdom will guide you, while it will no longer be about you. As distinctions fade, you’ll see yourself in everything and everyone. And, most important, you’ll find love everywhere you look.”

I suppose my message isn’t only for millennials, but for you and me, too. Happy New Year to all.

Love,
Garret