The Key to Consistency

Here’s a brief article to remind you about the sole key to consistency—in sports, business, relationships, or anything you do:

Understanding that inner ups and downs are normal.

That’s it. The extent to which you grasp that it’s normal for thought (energy) to ebb and flow—and that it’s normal for your mood to trend with it—will determine how consistently you live up to your God-given potential.

Why?

Because excellence is easy when moods trend up. But when moods trend down, those who don’t understand are inclined to cope (blame, control, fix). And you cannot cope and contribute to the greater good at the same time.

Keep in mind: The human experience will always be one of inner ups and downs. But your potential to excel never diminishes. Want consistency in your life? Understanding always trumps coping. Besides, coping takes too much time anyway. You’ve got better things to do. The world’s in need.

Peace: The Heart of our Being

People “seek” peace. People say it is elusive. Transitory. Lost in a distant, simpler past. An illusion of childhood. Hidden in the wilderness, on mountain peaks, on placid waters. Embedded in lovely music, in hushed houses of worship, in sublime poetry. It appears we think peace is a state we visit, a temporary shelter from the storm of life.

What a comfort to discover that the search for peace begins and ends within us! Peace is the natural state of being before the formation of thoughts about ourselves. Peace is the deepest wellspring of survival, the source from which we keep mercurial life in perspective.

What gives me the right to say such a thing? No one could ever have “told” me that, or “persuaded” me of that. But in the presence of people who had discovered it for themselves and were, therefore, at peace and untroubled by variable thoughts, I stopped thinking so hard and fast myself. I calmed down, and then I SAW it for myself. It came as an insight, a realization about myself, about life. It was an immediate certainty that I am the agent of my own experience. The external world lost its power over me. Just like that, my perception flipped from that of a person living at the mercy of all the things happening around me to a person living at the effect of my own thinking about everything.

I recognized that I cannot change what happens around me; yet I knew I have the power to shape my experience of it from the strength of my own originality. My mind fluttered to rest, and for the first time in a long time, I felt free and empowered. I was sitting with a group in a restaurant when this beautiful moment happened and I never even mentioned it. It was my experience. I figured that my lunch companions were relieved that I had stopped talking so fast and asking so many questions, and I just relaxed and had a good time.

The most significant insight imaginable is not a big deal. It’s not a big deal because the peace was there all along; it IS who we are. Just settling back to who we really are feels natural and easy. But once we see it, we can’t “unsee” it. Even at moments when our minds start racing again, we know what we’re doing. It’s not scary; it’s temporary. Knowing we’re making it all up anyway and knowing there are infinite possibilities of what else we might be making up, we don’t get trapped in our own worst ideas. Peace is a dynamic state, the state of knowing, no matter what, that we are meant to thrive, always close to an answer we’d never dreamed of before.

The outcome of this remarkable awakening to how our own minds work and to our own psychological strength is that we become better problem-solvers. People think we’re in denial, but we aren’t. We are in invention. Accepting what is and re-imagining what we can make of it and where to go from there. Creating fresh ideas, unafraid of the untested.

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Peace: The Heart of our Being

People “seek” peace. People say it is elusive. Transitory. Lost in a distant, simpler past. An illusion of childhood. Hidden in the wilderness, on mountain peaks, on placid waters. Embedded in lovely music, in hushed houses of worship, in sublime poetry. It appears we think peace is a state we visit, a temporary shelter from the storm of life.

What a comfort to discover that the search for peace begins and ends within us! Peace is the natural state of being before the formation of thoughts about ourselves. Peace is the deepest wellspring of survival, the source from which we keep mercurial life in perspective.

What gives me the right to say such a thing? No one could ever have “told” me that, or “persuaded” me of that. But in the presence of people who had discovered it for themselves and were, therefore, at peace and untroubled by variable thoughts, I stopped thinking so hard and fast myself. I calmed down, and then I SAW it for myself. It came as an insight, a realization about myself, about life. It was an immediate certainty that I am the agent of my own experience. The external world lost its power over me. Just like that, my perception flipped from that of a person living at the mercy of all the things happening around me to a person living at the effect of my own thinking about everything.

I recognized that I cannot change what happens around me; yet I knew I have the power to shape my experience of it from the strength of my own originality. My mind fluttered to rest, and for the first time in a long time, I felt free and empowered. I was sitting with a group in a restaurant when this beautiful moment happened and I never even mentioned it. It was my experience. I figured that my lunch companions were relieved that I had stopped talking so fast and asking so many questions, and I just relaxed and had a good time.

The most significant insight imaginable is not a big deal. It’s not a big deal because the peace was there all along; it IS who we are. Just settling back to who we really are feels natural and easy. But once we see it, we can’t “unsee” it. Even at moments when our minds start racing again, we know what we’re doing. It’s not scary; it’s temporary. Knowing we’re making it all up anyway and knowing there are infinite possibilities of what else we might be making up, we don’t get trapped in our own worst ideas. Peace is a dynamic state, the state of knowing, no matter what, that we are meant to thrive, always close to an answer we’d never dreamed of before.

The outcome of this remarkable awakening to how our own minds work and to our own psychological strength is that we become better problem-solvers. People think we’re in denial, but we aren’t. We are in invention. Accepting what is and re-imagining what we can make of it and where to go from there. Creating fresh ideas, unafraid of the untested.

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Peace: The Heart of our Being

People “seek” peace. People say it is elusive. Transitory. Lost in a distant, simpler past. An illusion of childhood. Hidden in the wilderness, on mountain peaks, on placid waters. Embedded in lovely music, in hushed houses of worship, in sublime poetry. It appears we think peace is a state we visit, a temporary shelter from the storm of life.

What a comfort to discover that the search for peace begins and ends within us! Peace is the natural state of being before the formation of thoughts about ourselves. Peace is the deepest wellspring of survival, the source from which we keep mercurial life in perspective.

What gives me the right to say such a thing? No one could ever have “told” me that, or “persuaded” me of that. But in the presence of people who had discovered it for themselves and were, therefore, at peace and untroubled by variable thoughts, I stopped thinking so hard and fast myself. I calmed down, and then I SAW it for myself. It came as an insight, a realization about myself, about life. It was an immediate certainty that I am the agent of my own experience. The external world lost its power over me. Just like that, my perception flipped from that of a person living at the mercy of all the things happening around me to a person living at the effect of my own thinking about everything.

I recognized that I cannot change what happens around me; yet I knew I have the power to shape my experience of it from the strength of my own originality. My mind fluttered to rest, and for the first time in a long time, I felt free and empowered. I was sitting with a group in a restaurant when this beautiful moment happened and I never even mentioned it. It was my experience. I figured that my lunch companions were relieved that I had stopped talking so fast and asking so many questions, and I just relaxed and had a good time.

The most significant insight imaginable is not a big deal. It’s not a big deal because the peace was there all along; it IS who we are. Just settling back to who we really are feels natural and easy. But once we see it, we can’t “unsee” it. Even at moments when our minds start racing again, we know what we’re doing. It’s not scary; it’s temporary. Knowing we’re making it all up anyway and knowing there are infinite possibilities of what else we might be making up, we don’t get trapped in our own worst ideas. Peace is a dynamic state, the state of knowing, no matter what, that we are meant to thrive, always close to an answer we’d never dreamed of before.

The outcome of this remarkable awakening to how our own minds work and to our own psychological strength is that we become better problem-solvers. People think we’re in denial, but we aren’t. We are in invention. Accepting what is and re-imagining what we can make of it and where to go from there. Creating fresh ideas, unafraid of the untested.

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Sticking With Truth

Here’s a quote that hangs on the locker room wall of a team I visited last week:

“Your thinking creates your reality. So to avoid negativity, think positive thoughts.”

Regrettably, these words reveal a common flaw—caused by a common misunderstanding—in the coaching profession (in counseling, teaching, and parenting, too). First, I’m going to talk about the flaw, then the misunderstanding.

The flaw: Truth followed by the suggestion of how to apply truth.

No doubt, using the quote above as an example, it’s true that your thinking creates your reality. Yet the advice should have ended right there. It’s a universal principle that we work inside to out (thought creates reality). It’s a personal opinion to “think positive thoughts to avoid negativity.” And someone else’s personal opinion cannot be helpful to you.

The misunderstanding: It’s abnormal and problematic to feel negative.

Human beings are always experiencing the ebb and flow of consciousness. One minute, we feel connected and positive. The next, we feel disconnected and negative Trouble is, coaches who don’t realize that this ebb and flow is normal will often make statements like the quote above. They connect with consciousness and say and do super helpful things (the first sentence of the quote). But as their personal thinking and negativity ramp up, the need to fix their own feelings by drumming up behavioral action steps becomes overwhelming. So much so that they even offer these action steps to other people (the second sentence of the quote).

Remember: Pointing toward what’s true—as in universally or for everyone—is the essence of great coaching. Offering action steps is the opposite. Simply understand that the ebb and flow of the human experience is normal, and you’ll be less inclined to shroud truthful messages with personal opinion. Plus, when negative feelings do strike, and they will, you’ll be more inclined to keep it simple, stick with truth, and leave the action steps up to yourself—and others.

Live Webinar Tomorrow (December 14th) at 11:00pt, 2:00et, 7:00gmt

Friends,

I realize that it’s not often you hear from me on back-to-back days, but I’m writing to tell you about (or for some, remind you about) tomorrow’s live webinar, where we’ll dive deep into the inside-out understanding, featuring yours truly. It’s being hosted by 3P Supermind and my friend Brett Chitty. The cost of attending is 5 pounds (about 6 bucks) and all proceeds go to 3P Supermind, so they may continue to bring us these informative events.

Here’s the link to sign up: http://threeprinciplessupermind.com/resources/garret-kramer.355/. I look forward to seeing you guys tomorrow and answering any questions, live, that you might have.

Garret

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Your True Power

Here’s an out-of-the-ordinary interchange that occurred between Liz, my wife, and me. My conclusion might surprise you. Yet it’s worthy of your reflection—and mine, too.

Last Monday evening, Liz accompanied me to a presentation that I was giving outside of London. It was a fabulous time. Moods were high, and the dialogue between me and the audience was fluent. Later, when we returned to the quiet of our hotel room, Liz held my hand and said, “You know, it’s crazy: I really heard something new tonight. I had a moving revelation as you spoke.”

I replied, “Babe, that’s so awesome.”

To which, Liz instantly let go of my hand and shot back: “Awesome? Don’t you want to know what I heard?”

“Not really. If we talk about it, or examine it, we’ll turn your revelation into a thing (a form). Better to leave it be.”

“Well, I want to tell you!”

“If you tell me, it won’t be new anymore. You can’t recycle a revelation.”

“Oh my goodness. I just heard something new again.”

“There you go, sweetheart. And, by the way, I’m hungry. Do you know where the room service menu is?”

Keep in mind: It’s not what you hear. It’s not what you see. It’s not what you think. It’s that you are gifted with these powers. As a spouse, parent, teacher, coach, employer, or friend, it’s far more affective to point others in the direction of these intrinsic powers—rather to the content of what these powers produce.

Content is personal. Our intrinsic powers are universal. And, as I reminded the audience that night, only the universal—what’s true across the board for everyone—has the power to change the world for the better.