In Response to your Comments, Another Look at “Culture”

It’s been an interesting week since I posted my video on the pitfalls of promoting a specific culture within your team, organization, or family. In all my years of sharing this work, I’ve experienced backlash, but never like this. Here, then, is one more try.

Garret

Availability of Sydney Banks’ Books

We have recently learned that The Missing Link and The Enlightened Gardener are now available as digital downloads on itunes! It is so wonderful to see Syd’s books becoming more widely accessible, as was his dream. The power of these original materials to help humanity cannot be overstated.

We have no information about other digital formats, but will let you know if we hear anything about that possibility.

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Availability of Sydney Banks’ Books

We have recently learned that The Missing Link and The Enlightened Gardener are now available as digital downloads on itunes! It is so wonderful to see Syd’s books becoming more widely accessible, as was his dream. The power of these original materials to help humanity cannot be overstated.

We have no information about other digital formats, but will let you know if we hear anything about that possibility.

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A Second Look at Why Behavior Modification Doesn’t Work

I received many questions regarding this week’s article, http://garretkramer.com/why-managing-the-behavior-of-others-doesnt-work/, so here’s a video to help answer them. If you’re still uncertain about the direction I’m pointing here, no problem, you know where to find me.

Garret

How People Change: The difference between our approach and the wildly popular cognitive-type approaches

We are re-posting this blog as it has been a very popular topic. At Pransky and Associates we talk about a set of principles that help people to make sense of what’s happening in their own minds. Although we do … Continue reading

Why Managing the Behavior of Others Doesn’t Work

It’s interesting. Lately, I’ve been speaking a lot about the necessity for coaches to not try to manage the behavior of their players (and the implications here are the same for teachers, counselors, therapists, and parents). As a result, I’ve heard many “Yea buts” in emails, messages, and conversations with coaches. Such as: “I get it, Garret, but my players are almost always late for team meetings, workouts, and practices. It’s so frustrating. Don’t I have to manage this behavior through discipline and punishment?”

Here’s why the answer is no: It’s the coach’s state of mind, and the example that he sets as a result, that’s preventing his message (in this case, the importance of punctuality) from reaching the players. So any attempt to modify the players’ behavior is looking in the wrong direction—outside—and simply won’t work.

Don’t forget, the experience of human beings evolves 100 percent from inside to out. No matter the behavior of those you coach, teach, counsel, or parent, the first step to helping others is to understand that your perceptions of others (and your ability to reach them) is caused by your own state of mind in the moment. In other words, coaches who know that their moods are not caused by anything on the outside, and thus don’t try to fix their moods by managing their players’ behavior, are the most influential coaches in the world today.