Update on Genesis of the Three Principles DVD

As of now, the DVD is only available for sale in the US on Amazon and through the Foundation website (although it can be shipped from there to other countries). We are currently working on getting it on Amazon in the UK and Canada. In addition, we are working on the process to make it available (via Amazon Video Direct) as a digital download in the United States, United Kingdom, Germany, Austria, and Japan.

We will post any updates on this as we have them, hopefully within the next couple of weeks.

Thanks for your patience

Update on Genesis of the Three Principles DVD

As of now, the DVD is only available for sale in the US on Amazon and through the Foundation website (although it can be shipped from there to other countries). We are currently working on getting it on Amazon in the UK and Canada. In addition, we are working on the process to make it available (via Amazon Video Direct) as a digital download in the United States, United Kingdom, Germany, Austria, and Japan.

We will post any updates on this as we have them, hopefully within the next couple of weeks.

Thanks for your patience

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Young Athletes (and Parents): Here’s the Only Thing You Need to Know To Master the “Mental Game”

The following is a rewrite of an article I wrote for an upcoming golf publication. I was asked by the editor for my quick take on the above subject line. Most of you have heard me talk about this before, but a brief reminder never hurt anyone. Including me.

Garret

 

In spite of the glut of strategies, tools, techniques, and theories that exist today, there’s only one true path to understanding and then mastering the mental game in sports. And to all the young athletes and their parents out there, I promise, it’s not what you’re thinking. To handle the inevitable ups and downs of sports, and life, what you need to know is that a circumstance (a win, loss, teammate, coach, the past or future) cannot cause you to feel a certain way. Your feelings are solely connected to your thinking. When your head is clear, you’ll feel good. When you’re head cluttered, you’ll feel bad. Anything on the outside is actually neutral.

Never heard that before? Well, it’s normal for it to appear that a circumstance has the power to make you feel anxious, frustrated, or even happy. But your mind, like the minds of all human beings, doesn’t work from out to in—it works from in to out. That’s why, if you’re a golfer, sometimes you’ll feel insecure when looking at the out-of-bounds stakes that line the left side of the 18th fairway, and sometimes you won’t. The out-of-bounds stakes aren’t driving you feelings; your thinking (level of clarity or clutter in the moment) is what’s doing this.

Finally, let me also remind you: Knowing that your thinking, not your circumstances, creates your feelings doesn’t mean that you’re capable of managing or controlling your thoughts. No one is that powerful. Yet it will stop you from searching outside for causes and cures (overthinking) when bad feelings strike. And not searching outside allows what I call your “psychological immune system” to activate—as clarity of mind sets in and calm, confident, and determined feelings arise without effort.

When that starts to happen on a consistent basis, you have mastered the so-called mental game. I wish you good luck!

Decisions: Made by a Higher Power or You?

Here’s a video about the much talked about topic of how productive decisions or choices occur to us. Take note of how at times throughout the video, I struggle to choose my words and then, out of nowhere, the words occur to me. This ebb and flow is at the heart of a perspective on decision making that’s worth considering.

Thanks for watching,

Garret

Truth (Inside-Out) Versus Illusion (Outside-In)

In this video, I talk about the illusion of duality (that we work both inside-out and outside-in), how this illusion serves as the sole source of negative feelings, and why understanding (not controlling) is the key to peace of mind and productivity.

I hope you find this “direction” as meaningful and moving as I do.

Garret

Right and Wrong: Painful Thoughts

Many of my clients are intensely engaged in a fruitless, frustrating effort to prove others wrong, or to get others to say or do what they expect. They come in angry and resentful because these people are “ruining” their life or “making” them miserable. They hang their happiness on getting what they think they “need” from people they who have “let them down”.

When”, I always ask them, “is the last time you complied with an angry, accusatory person who insisted that you do or say something?”

The usual response is, “Huh?” That is usually followed, “But you don’t understand. I’m right.”

Of course, in the state of mind we happen to be in, we all think we’re right. And, there’s the rub. Unless we know that “right” is our own thought, we are doomed to righteous indignation and seeking the company only of people who agree with us while demanding satisfaction from those who don’t.

Here’s an example. I was talking to someone who had gotten through a bitter divorce and arrived, painfully, at a shared custody agreement with her ex-husband regarding their young teenager. He started giving the teenager a tremendous amount of freedom, lots of money, and every material thing the teenager asked for. She was attempting to set boundaries, limit spending money and encourage her teenager to work for things that felt important. It wasn’t long before the teenager was playing one off against the other, and manifesting a lot of negative behaviors. So the mother demanded that the whole family go to counseling.

After one session, the counselor told her, “Well, of course, you’re right, but he’s not going to do anything you ask him to do. He feels if he supported your parenting style and helped you, it would be doing something for you, and he doesn’t want to do anything for you. He can’t stand you. So I think you have to work with things as they are, or maybe try to renegotiate your custody agreement.” The woman was devastated. She wanted an answer about how to create change, not a suggestion that she needed to get resigned to an untenable stand-off.

Right now, we live in a world that does not recognize that all people have the capacity to see their thinking for what it is and change their minds. We live in a world where resignation or argument is as good as it gets. We live in a world that assumes each person’s thinking is the way it is and nothing will change. We live in a world that gives all the power to situations, and no power whatsoever to the thinkers of the thoughts that created the situations in the first place.

In the resilient, dynamic, inside-out world represented by the Principles of Mind, Consciousness and Thought, that makes no sense at all. When our clients tell us that someone or something else is making them miserable or doing them wrong, we do not focus on “fixing” the situation or reinforcing their negative view. We focus on the only true source of power, the creative force of each person’s ability to think and think again, and see things for themselves, and appreciate their own unlimited power to change.

All of these situations we address are microcosms of the general failure to solve big problems in the world. People feel victimized by “intractable” situations, rather than seeing that their thinking about the situations is what is holding them in place.

Is it possible that a resentful ex-husband could come to understand that his negative thinking about the past is the source of his hateful feelings about his ex-wife, and question the wisdom of acting against his child’s best interest? Is it possible that an insecure ex-wife could see how her thinking, as well as his, played into the nastiness of the divorce, and question whether her own insecurity was preventing her from finding common ground about what is best for their child? Is it possible that a mental health educator who understood that thinking is a power we all can understand how to use could help resolve this situation?

Yes, Yes, and Yes.

Wake up, world! Wake up to the universal wisdom that could set us all free to resolve conflicts (large and small), create solutions (at home and in the world), and live at peace. It is one thought away from every person on the planet.

To find that thought — whatever healing insight is needed for the situation(s) we are in — all we need is a moment of truth, a moment in which we see for ourselves that we are creating our reality, and we can change it, a moment of quietude into which wisdom flows.

Here is a little talk I offered in 2013 about finding peace on earth, my vision for the 21st Century:

 

 

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