Love in the New Year

As the holidays fast approach, here’s a simple thank you: Thank you for opening your heart to the words I write each week. I feel so fortunate and humbled to have stumbled upon the subject of these articles, the inside-out paradigm, many years ago. If this paradigm interests you, too, we share an unbreakable bond. Just considering the fact that our feelings are connected to the spiritual principle of thought, and not to the circumstances of our lives, is the ultimate answer to improved performance on and off the field. But that’s only because the inside-out paradigm is the answer to everything.

You see, in this basic truth we hold the key to peace, to being of service, to resilience, to leadership, to gratitude, to passion, to care and to kindness. And, more important, since you and I have caught a glimpse of this truth, it’s up to us to set the example. Understanding that we work inside-out will not exempt us from the compulsion to look outside for causes and cures. That’s why we must hold as steadfast as possible when we feel insecure, angry, or arrogant, carry on and not lash out at the world. As I’ve said before, an off-gut feeling (a struggle) is a gentle nudge from above to stop taking life personally. To turn inward. To self-correct and reconnect. So simply listen.

My hope for 2016, then, is that each of us will see this powerful truth just a little more clearly. That we’ll understand just a little more deeply that answers are never found in looking outside. Rather, let us never forget that answers are only found in the one thing in life that does not come from the human ability to think. In the one thing in life that prevents us from putting our personal needs before the needs of others. In the one thing that guides us to oneness, brotherhood, and strength. Answers are found in Love.

Happy Holidays everyone. Love,

Garret

Reviving the Joy of Teaching

Judith Sedgeman                            anni

The courses offered are:

  1. Redefining Mental Health. Instructor: Judith A. Sedgeman, EdD.
  1. Understanding Innate Resilience. Instructor: Judith A. Sedgeman, EdD.
  1. School Problem-Solving from the Inside-Out. Instructor: Judith A. Sedgeman, EdD.
  1. Innate Resilience in the Workplace. Instructor: Anni Poole.

The course instructors are qualified educators, both with years of teaching experience, and working in and with educational Institutions.

  • A series of four web-based courses offered globally by West Virginia

University, and developed with Center for Sustainable Change.

  • International Learning Units (ILU’s) indicating mastery of the material will be granted by West Virginia University to participants after a final quiz.
  • Center for Sustainable Change is dedicated to transforming the lives of children, youth and adults in distress. Its mission is to educate those who engage with young people about the transformative power of understanding the Principles of Innate Resilience, thereby generating sustainable change by empowering leaders in their own communities.
  • West Virginia University is a land-grant institution with the mission to deliver high-quality education, excel in discovery and innovation, model a culture of diversity and inclusion, promote health and vitality, and build pathways for the exchange of knowledge and opportunity between the state, the nation and the world.
  • Fee for the courses will be US $199 for each course taken individually, or

US $550 to register for and take all four sequentially (recommended).

Registration will start in April, 2016 and the first round of courses will open In May. Participants will register online with West Virginia University and payments are made to WVU.

For more details please contact Lynanne Lawhead:  lynanne@centerforsustainablechange.org

The Necessity of Not Going Back in Time

Early this morning, I received a text from the coach of one of the teams I work with. One of his best players had performed poorly the night before (in the coach’s mind, the player lost focus), and he wanted my opinion on what he should say to the player before today’s practice. The text exchange went like this:

Coach: “Any tips on what I should say to him?”

Me: “Not really. To me, you guys should simply get back to work. And btw, we (the player and I) have a FaceTime call at 5 today.”

Coach: “Oh, so you’re going to talk with him about his lack of focus?”

Me: “Nope. Why don’t we both stay out of his way? He’s probably already snapped out of his funk.”

Coach: “Man, of course, how could I have forgotten that?”

Me: “In an immediate desire to make things right, we all do sometimes. Talk soon.”

Indeed, this is a principle that almost all mentors overlook. Players (like all people) won’t find answers if we strategically take them back in time. Digging into the past requires a tremendous amount of thought, and this actually clutters the mind, increasing a lack of perspective or focus. Rather, if we simply carry on—in this case, just get back at it the next day—the mind’s intuitive ability to clear and, thus, refocus on its own is activated. Inner wisdom and solutions moving forward then have room to rise from within.

In fact, here was our text exchange after practice:

Coach: “It’s like last night never happened. It looks to me like he cleaned up all the mistakes on his own. He asked me a few questions about our defensive-zone coverage, which we reviewed. That’s it. He was great.”

Me: “You’re a godsend for him.”

Coach: “You, too.”

P.S. If you’re wondering what I’ll say to the player later today during our FaceTime call, I’m not exactly sure. But I can tell you what I won’t do: Drag him back to a moment in time, and a funk, that doesn’t exist now. We’ll probably talk briefly about the holidays, his family, some good new movies, and maybe—just maybe—I’ll sprinkle in a few subtle reminders about the mind’s extraordinary power to self-correct.

The Blame Game

Virtually every day on social media, we see a quote about the detriments of playing the “blame game,” or blaming someone else for our own feelings of anger, insecurity, stress, or fear. They are wise and true, but they don’t address the real issue: Blaming someone else is not what’s detrimental. It’s blame, all by itself, that is.

As I’ve offered on this blog many times, our feelings spring from our thinking (or, said another way, the uncontrollable principle of thought), not from a circumstance or person on the outside. That’s why it’s illogical to blame someone else for what we feel on the inside; they’re not truly connected.

And while most understand that, what we often overlook is that we are on the outside, too. Blaming ourselves for feelings that we’re not in charge of is just as illogical as blaming someone else. In fact, many of us today are stuck in a sea of self-blame—and, thus, not feeling or performing up to par.

Do you want to stop playing the blame game and start feeling and performing your best? Then it’s essential to see that human beings work inside-out. Meaning: What you feel comes only from thought, thought is uncontrollable, and thought alone is on the inside. Other people, traffic, the opposition, critics, money—even you are on the outside.

A quick review:

  • What you feel (emotions, sensations) comes from the inside. Not the outside.
  • The inside: Thought.
  • The outside: People (including you), places, and things.

Thanks for reading!

Garret