From Chapter 4 of My New Book

What follows is an excerpt from Chapter 4  (“Staying in the Game”) of  The Path of No Resistance. The book is due out on October 14th. As always, any questions or comments, reach out.

Garret

 

In chapter 3, I said that Syd Banks once claimed that wisdom is everywhere. Here’s one of my favorite words of wisdom. Writer, actor, and director Woody Allen once said, “Showing up is 80 percent of life.” Indeed, if we let grass grow under our feet, there’s a chance that opportunity might pass us by. But when we choose to show up for work, a class, or a training session, we put ourselves in a position for consciousness and success to collide.

After I coined the word “stillpower” and wrote a book about it, I found that many people assumed I was promoting the act of remaining still, rather than the power of a still mind-set, in order to find excellence. I remember one client asking me, “Are you saying that it’s best to sit on the sidelines and wait for things to clear when I’m in a low state of mind?” Not for a second.

Let’s say you’re a boxer, and you’re in the midst of training for a championship fight. Your daily schedule includes some serious training because if you don’t train seriously, chances are you’ll suffer some physical harm—let alone lose the fight. Yet one morning you wake up with perplexing thoughts: “Should I go to the gym or not?” As confusion reigns, you assume (because of the confusion) that you’re better off staying home, even though you still feel uncertain and, perhaps, guilty too.

But what if you misread your own feelings? In this book, I’ve shown how often that takes place. Truth is: When you really need a day off, that notion won’t be one bit confusing. That morning you’ll be so tired that you’ll sleep straight through your blaring alarm clock. You won’t have to think about what you should or should not do.

A feeling of uncertainty, therefore, is a sign that you ought to show up; you need to get out of bed and into the gym; you must stay in the game. Your thinking—not your training—is getting in your way at that moment. No matter the situation, you’re better off carrying on in the midst of chaotic thoughts, since, when they occur, you’re temporarily unequipped to deviate or think outside the box.

Don’t forget: Your feelings are there to guide you. When it’s time to change things up, the feeling will be direct, immediate, and resolute (i.e., no thought). When it’s time to stay in the game, the feeling will be scattered, confused, and ambivalent (i.e., too much thought).

Here’s a different illustration. Most business people, athletes, or doctors with whom I work have fast-paced jobs. They, too, sometimes get confused about when to sit back and when to go for it. A surgeon might say, “I see what you mean, my feelings are a barometer of my thoughts and mind-set. But I work in an operating room. If I feel rattled, I can’t just stop and wait for clarity to show up.”

Precisely. Surgeons who understand that they feel their thinking, and not what happens in the operating room, have no reason to stop and wait for clarity. They don’t get bogged down by the self-created perceptions that come from a temporarily cluttered mind-set. They keep engaged, deflecting any external distractions. They remain resilient; they become clear.

I understand. This paradigm is different—particularly for those of you who believe that something is actually wrong when you don’t feel quite right. However, a lack of clarity is never a call to intentionally pull back and sit on your hands or chill. A lack of clarity is the normal byproduct of the fact that you think; there is nothing broken. And that’s all you need to know to allow your psychological immune system to return you to balance.

As I told you at the beginning of The Path of No Resistance: Don’t fret if it doesn’t make perfect sense right now. Just stay in the game with me; let’s explore a little deeper.

You never know, your muddled perceptions might clear up before we finish this chapter.

The Thought Police

They are everywhere: the thought police. In our churches and temples; in our schools and universities; on the coaching staffs of our sports teams, in our psychologists’ offices; in our meditation classes; in the advertisements that we watch on TV; in our positive-thinking seminars; in our own families. Somewhere in the evolution of human beings, the notion that a person’s thoughts were controllable made its way to the forefront.

We’ve been paying a huge price ever since.

The truth is that no one can control his or her thoughts. What you think is not up to you. What you think is also not dependent on your environment or circumstances. Plus, the more you attempt to police your thinking, the more your thoughts will build, and (because human beings feel their thinking) the worse you will feel.

For years, I have wondered why people don’t catch on to this. Here in the U.S., for example, many speak out against thought-controlling or dictatorship-type regimes, but we laud a military that is steeped in this very culture. On our sports fields, discipline and toeing the line is stressed far more than imagination and creativity. And our penal system is all about altering the thought systems of others. I was even strolling through a bookstore the other day and noticed a book titled: How Successful People Think. As if a person is actually capable of willfully thinking the same thoughts as another person.

Enough mind control is enough. The more you try to think a certain way, the more you have to think. And, again, the more you think the lower you feel. Trying to control your thinking (or allowing another person to control your thinking) also does a number on your free will, instincts, and behavior.

Rather, if you (like most of us) seek a happy and rewarding life, the answer is as simple as understanding that there are no thought police. In other words, the reason you struggle is you’ve been brainwashed to believe that your thoughts are so meaningful and dangerous that they must be controlled.

Remember, your thoughts, and the feelings they generate, are constantly changing. Nothing you think is written in stone. So, no matter what occurs to you, leave your thinking alone. If you do, your innate functioning will clear your head; turning your feelings favorable, and your actions instinctive and productive.

Six Reasons Why It’s Not a Good Idea to Use Mental Techniques

As most of you know, my work is all about teaching others the importance of allowing one’s inner wisdom and instincts to do as nature intended: clear out the mind’s clutter. The first step in making this happen is to stop using prescribed mental techniques or strategies. The six reasons why:

 

  1. Mental techniques never lead to excellence.

The human mind is an amazing self-corrective mechanism. While an uptick in one’s performance level or happiness may appear to come from the use of a mental technique (positive thinking, analyzing one’s past, sticking to a routine, visualizing an affirmative outcome, etc.), it is actually derived from the mind’s natural ability to regulate to clarity. That’s why the use of mental techniques appears to only work sometimes.

  1. Mental techniques imply that a person’s feelings come from the outside.

The only reason that a person would employ a mental technique or coping strategy is because he or she is attributing a bad feeling to a life circumstance, when, in truth, feelings can only come from inside the person. Knowing that feelings are formed from the inside-out is what activates a person’s natural resilience.

  1. Mental techniques come from someone else.

The use of suggested mental strategies thwarts a person’s free will and instincts. Why? These strategies come from another person. One’s inner wisdom is the only true source of consistent peace of mind and excellence.

  1. Mental techniques require thinking.

As mentioned, feelings can only come from within a person. But from where? The answer is from one’s thinking—more thinking leads to a worse feeling, less thinking leads to a better feeling. So, because the application of mental strategies requires thought, implementing these strategies eventually makes a person feel worse.

  1. Mental techniques obstruct a person’s psychological immune system.

Once again, the human mind is designed to self-correct. Just like our physical immune systems keep our bodies in check; our psychological immune systems protect our minds. When we use outside fixes to remedy our feelings, however, we get in the way of this automatic process. When a person continually applies mental techniques, his or her psychological immune system becomes obstructed to the point of malfunction.

  1. Mental techniques are not truth.

A mental technique is no more than someone’s idea, theory, or concept. And ideas, concepts, and theories are not truth. Here, on the other hand, is truth: Wayward feelings come from normal fluctuations of thought. Feelings are not permanent; they don’t need to be fixed. The path to long-term fulfillment is not found by applying how-to techniques. It’s found by understanding how the mind works.

Questions or comments about this list—reach out anytime.

Garret

European Tour Day 66: End of the tour

Day 66, May 5.

Jack Pransky tour t shirtWell, there were other people I would have liked to see, such as my cuz’ Aaron Turner and his mother, Elaine, and Jamie Smart, and a few other people who had contacted me and asked if I could get together with them, but I was simply all filled up and just needed to be alone, and it felt glorious.

Shirley Scott, from my first Spain training, picked me up in the morning to take me to the airport and to have a meal before I got on the plane. A delightful talk with a delightful person. I’ve always liked Shirley so much. I remember very clearly a huge moment she had in my Spain training last year.

Then, just like that, trip over. Tour over! Time to check in. Unfortunately my plane was delayed an hour and 10 minutes. Way more unfortunate, I apparently told Amy I was coming in a night earlier—I got a phone call from her. She spent the night being worried about me. I felt so bad. Ugh!

Landed in Boston, from whence I started. Long lines in customs. Had to get the Silver Line (a combination subway-bus) directly to South Station, where after waiting 45 minutes, I caught a commuter train south of Boston to Sharon (the town in which I grew up), where my cousin, Jeanne had left my car for me and hid the keys.

By this time it was late and I hadn’t slept in a really long time, except for about 45 minutes on the plane, but I wanted to get home, so I took the long 4-hour drive back to Vermont. I just pumped myself with all kinds of bad stuff: an ice cream bar, a Dr. Pepper (for caffeine) and m&m’s peanuts and bit the bullet and did it.

I have taken this drive hundreds of times over the years, but from being so tired I must have spaced out for a moment because I missed a turn and went 15 minutes out of my way (and 15 back) before I realized I was off. Just what I needed. I finally pulled in to Moretown at about 1:30 AM, drove up the driveway, tiptoed into the house, snuck into bed beside Amy, and I was home.

After being on the road for 2+ months, moving from place to place, lugging my bags around, being with one great person after another, the fact that it has come to an end is unfathomable to me.

So many things had to fall into place for it to happen.

First, I had the thought because of Amy—probably never would have happened had we not agreed to be apart for two months.

Then I remember last October, sitting on the beach at Albir, Spain with Sue Pankiewicz, later joined by Sheela and Katja, kicking around the idea of whether a European Tour was feasible.

Then I put out some feelers to a few people. Then people started coming out of the woodwork, and I had more work and more places to stay than I knew what to do with.

How it all fell into place was nothing short of astounding. This trip and Tour surpassed my expectations beyond all imagination. I am so happy I did it. Now I need to recover for a while.

So many people to thank

From the bottom of my heart I thank so many people who helped me out, put me up, took care of me, and arranged trainings and seminars on the Jack Pransky Three Principles European Tour.

First, the preliminaries: All the people I mentioned above, plus Frank Gerryts for twisting my arm to write this blog and for posting them all on my website and Facebook; and my cousin, Jeanne Moss, for keeping my car while I was gone. And especially to those all along the way:

Sue Pankiewicz – Colchester, England
Karen Raimbault – Paris, France
Veronique Pivetta and Gordon Swartz – Brussels, Belgium
Jos Wielink – Rhenen and Amsterdam, The Netherlands
Mette Louise Holland and Mia Sejstrup – Soro, Denmark
Lise Dardanelle (and Natasha Swerdloff) – Trkob and Copenhagen, Denmark
Elisabeth Karlehav and Viktoria – Stockholm, Sweden
Fredrik Kinnman – Lund, Sweden
Andrea Wolansky – Ratzeburg, Germany
Katja Symons (and Bruce) – Berlin, Germany
Tammy Furey – Zurich and St. Gallen, Switzerland
Anthony Davis and Kay Evans (and Sylvie Walls) – St. Jean D’Aulps and Morzine, France
Megan and Willy Paterson (and Rauna) – Geneva, Switzerland
Monica Fava, Allesandro and Ciara Saramin – Milan, Padova and Mantova, Italy
Peppe Longo – Belpasso, Sicily
Amanda O’Shea (and Fran Stutely) – Javea, Spain
Sheela Masand and Mark Jones – Albir, Spain
Nuno Arrais – Porto, Famalicao and Lisbon, Portugal
Teal, Ms. “Wild Events”- who arranged all my transportation while in the UK
Denise Holland –West Mailing, Kent, England
Jacqueline Bennett (and Janet Lindsay) – Birmingham, England
Victoria Green – Shelley, Huddersfield, England
Christian McNeill (and Lynne Robertson) – Glasgow, Scotland
Jacquie Forde – Edinburgh, Scotland
Sue Anderson and Bernie Parks (and Julian Freeman) – Saltburn and Middlesbrough, England
Steve Adair and Tony Fiedler (and Janet Lindsay) – Brighton, England
Chantal Burns – St. Albans, England
Kirsty Hanley and Russell Davis – London, England
Rudi and Jenny Kennard – London, England
Tikun (Shoshana Kahan and Terri Rubenstein) – London, England
Shirley Scott – London, England

I just can’t even begin to tell you how much it meant to me for you to do what you did for me. I am forever grateful.

Been there, done that, got the t-shirt?

By the way, if anyone out there reading this either has the means to make a T-shirt or has connections with someone who does, please email me at jack@healthrealize.com. Enough people have actually said they’d be interested in having one that I’ve started to consider the possibility of that crazy idea.

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Upcoming “Stillpower” Workshop

Friends,

I’m pleased to announce that this summer, on June 25th and 26th, I will be hosting the first open Stillpower Workshop. This two-day event is open to anyone on this e-mail list, including: professional, college, and high school coaches; front office personnel or administrators; athletes; teachers and professors; psychologists and life coaches; even parents.

The workshop will be held at the offices of Inner Sports in Morristown, New Jersey, and space is limited. The cost is 850.00 U.S. per person.

If you have any questions, please reach out. Again, it’s important, to me, to keep the group small, so please contact me ASAP if interested.

Thank you for your continued interest in this work,

Garret

European Tour Day 65: Creation, Illusion, Essence and Oneness

Day 65, May 4.

My last full day in Europe! Very hard to believe. Spent the night at the Aber Hotel, right next to Kirsty’s house, and I really liked this place. Very peaceful (as opposed to you-know-where of a few days ago).

Rembrandt self-portraitHad another wonderful coaching day with Kirsty and Russell in beautiful Kenwood Park. The weather was perfect; I have been so lucky on this trip. The grounds and flowers were incredible. In the Kenwood house I saw another Rembrandt painting, which stood out from all the other beautiful paintings there.

Four Words

Today we talked about the four words that I believe are the crux of the meaning of the Three Principles, at least to me: creation, illusion, essence and Oneness.

I asked others in a training on this trip to come up with their 2-4 words, and no one came up with any of these.

With Russell and Kirsty we explored what these mean for fear and ego, and how they apply to the problems their clients bring to them as hypnotherapists. We talked about whether there was a place for hypnotherapy in helping people learn about the three principles in a similar way to the use of medication to sometimes help people with severe mental illness calm down enough to hear the 3Ps—a very interesting question.

Then they brought me to the Holiday Inn Express near Tikun, in time for me to do an on-line check-in for my plane ticket home tomorrow and to take a nap and a shower. I don’t know where the time went because by the time I walked the 10 minutes to Tikun looking for an open restaurant, I didn’t have time to eat dinner because I had to either write down a lot on a flipchart before this session or set up a power point.

But no one was around at Tikun to help me do either. So I scrambled to find paper and was a little frazzled before this session started, unlike my others. Most of the people in the audience were from the Jewish community surrounding Tikun, and I recognized a lot of them from the training Amy and I did there three years ago, and from the conference.

My Last Session of the Trip

My last session of this trip started a little shakily with people not participating, unlike my other groups, but about 1/3 of the way in it clicked in and ended up being a very good session.

My talk was about what I know that has kept me afloat in trying times, and I used my own personal story as the basis for it. I actually went a half-hour longer than scheduled because it was flowing (but late).

Two heartwarming things happened for me:

  1. One woman said she had seen something in my book that had completely changed her life, only I’m positive I never wrote what she said she saw in it, and she said she re-read it 4 times and could never find it again, yet it totally changed her life—proving once again that it is always an inside job; the answer is never in the outside world (a book), it is always one’s own insight.
  2. The other thing was that Kirsty, who was in the audience with Russell, told me afterwards that she really heard something very deep tonight where she really got it and felt it.

Also, two women afterwards told me they wanted to speak with me privately about relationship issues, both very touching stories, and I was able to help one of them break out of her habitual thinking; the other needs private counseling.

I got out of there very late. By this time, at almost 11:00 PM, I was really hungry, but all the restaurants were closed except one Persian restaurant, where I had a delicious bowl of soup. And then it was on to spend the last night of my trip.

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European Tour Day 65: Near the end and recalling the early days

Day 65, May 3.

Chantal drove me to the train station, and we scrambled to get me a ticket to get me onto the train on time. I couldn’t find a place for my bags on this train—it was pretty crowded—so even though there were a few scattered seats I decided to sit on my bags or stand. It was my last train ride in Europe.

Had a wonderful combined coaching-and-walking-around-London day with two wonderful people: Kirsty and Russell. We talked a lot about relationships, fear and creation. We walked by Big Ben, where I got a big hit about having been there with Amy. Awww

Then I met two great friends for dinner: Rudi and Jenny, freshly in from New Zealand, where they had a very rejuvenating time. We reminisced about how they were in the very first training group I and Amy did overseas—in or around Colchester, seven years ago.

So many of the people who are now well-known in UK 3P circles were in that first group: Besides Rudi and Jenny [Kennard], Dean [Rees-Evans] and Merryn [Ironmonger] , Sue Pankiewicz, Peter Anderson and more.

So much has happened and grown in the UK since then it is truly astounding. So many lives touched. So many lives changed for the better—not only by those I mentioned, but by others whom they helped, who in turn subsequently helped others. That’s the way The Three Principles understanding grows and spreads—one person at a time, taking hold solidly, and then rippling out geometrically from there.

And Rudi and Jenny deserve so much credit for creating the Three Principles Movies site that brought so many resources to the people, in the days when one had to struggle to find any (before the days of the 3PGC).

I remember very clearly when Rudi, Jenny, Amy and I were sitting around our table in Vermont discussing the early formulation of the idea. I was their first video interview, in our living room, and Rudi tells me it is still (amazingly to me) the most watched video on the 3P movies site, even though technically-speaking, being their first, it did not have the technical quality of their later great work. I encourage everyone to continue to support their site.

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The Depression Fairy is Imaginary

depression fairyDespite the protests of several of my clients recently, I must insist  there is no Depression Fairy who randomly visits us and sprinkles dreadful thoughts in our minds. Oh, I know she seems very real, and powerful, and quick to alight out of nowhere. But she is imaginary, as are her close friends, like the Anxiety Fairy and the Anger Fairy.

As much as that might be good news, for many people who have struggled with Depression for decades, it is initially distressing news.  What’s wrong, then, if there’s no invisible outside force causing depression?  For people who are depressed, believing they just can’t help it  because it “happens” to them and they have to do the best they can to forge on anyway  becomes a kind of familiar comfort. They look at cheerful, energetic people as either lucky or out of touch with “real” life. They become resigned to existence in the gray spectrum: colorless, unemotional, exhausting in its grim monotony. They feel helpless and hopeless.

I had a client tell me recently that she hardly gotten out of bed at all for three months. She just couldn’t. I asked if there was ever even once in that time when she did, when she got up and got dressed and did something anyway. There was. Her cat got very sick and she rallied to take the cat to the vet. I asked her what she thought it was that  gave her the energy to move then. She said, “I love that cat. I couldn’t bear to see her suffer. I had to stop thinking about myself and take care of her.”

That is a profound statement about the source, and the relief, for depression. Over the years, so many people have told me similar stories. They had never stopped to reflect on the significance of their brief interludes of sufficient energy to do something. Yet in every case, their little surges of energy started with a compelling thought that interrupted a relentless torrent of self-concern and turned their mind elsewhere. They reconnected with life beyond their self-absorption, even if briefly. I do not use “self-absorption” judgmentally. It is the very definition of depression: a focus on one’s own internal stresses, fears, terrors, insecurities to the exclusion of all else.

Whether they realize it or not, they can turn their own thinking elsewhere, and often they do. Without understanding of the power to do that, though, it doesn’t register as meaningful. It just seems to them that every once in a while they manage to feel a little stronger, a little better, a little more engaged in something. But, as one of my clients put it, “I know it won’t last.”

That thought alone — “It won’t last” — triggers the downward spiral back to depression. But it’s nothing more than a habitual thought. The power to slip down into the cave again does not belong to those words, but to the life we give them. We always get to be right because our thinking comes to life via our consciousness and creates a temporary reality, no matter what it is. Just knowing that — knowing for sure that we are the thinkers creating from within our own minds the reality we see — is the antidote to depression. We don’t have to “clean up” our thinking or replace bleak thoughts with bright ones, or do anything at all with the thoughts we’ve already formed. As soon as we have the realization that the power of thought does not reside in the content of what we bring to mind, but in ourselves, who continually make it up from nothing, we let upsetting thoughts pass and keep on allowing new thoughts to come to mind. Understanding how thought works naturally results in letting go of thoughts that aren’t helpful and are taking us down. No one wants to feel bad; without seeing that the feeling is a byproduct of the thoughts we are innocently creating, though, it doesn’t seem like we have a choice.  We come out of the shadows of our own thinking as soon as we own our power to think.

As a colleague of mine often says, “The power of a thought lasts as long as you think it, and not a moment longer.” There’s no Depression Fairy sprinkling us with her yucky fairy dust. We chart our own course via the thinking we do; we can change direction at any time. We made up the Depression Fairy, too. Isn’t the human imagination amazing?

“Hate, jealousy, insecurity. phobias and feelings of depression are all compounds of negative thoughts.

All feelings derive and become alive, whether negative or positive, from the power of Thought. …

Even if you disagree with what I say, it’s your thought.”

                                                                                                           Sydney Banks, The Missing Link, pp. 24-25

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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European Tour Day 64: Sleepless in London

Day 64, May 2.

I just had the worst night of my trip, by far, and it had nothing at all to do with the 85 stairs (I counted them) that I had to walk up with my heavy bags, nor the fact that I had to walk all the way up and down twice more to get WiFi service because it didn’t reach further than the first floor even though they advertised that they had it.

It was about the fact that at approximately 1:30 AM until about 4:30 AM a group of people in rooms on either side of me came in drunk, yelling, slamming doors (at least 20 times), and talking so loudly it was simply impossible to sleep.

To make matters worse I had re-packed earlier that night and in my stupor I couldn’t find where I had put my ear plugs, so I just put on my headphones and ipod, but they were so loud I even heard them through that.

This morning when I walked out of my room there was used toilet paper (God knows with what) all over the hallway. So this morning I asked the Vicarage Hotel manager for my money back, or at least half of it, and she asked me if I had said anything to them.

So I said, “I’m supposed to confront a drunken group in the middle of the night?”

So she said, “You should have called us or come down to ring the bell.”

But there’s no phone in the room—only the hallway where they were running in and out—and I would have had to walk through them to walk down 85 stairs to ring the bell. Oh well, the perils of a European Tour…

Last night when I was looking for a place to eat I bumped into Bill’s again, the same restaurant where I’d had my great meal in Brighton. I didn’t know it was a little chain. So I went in to have that same great meal again, and it wasn’t nearly as good—it was almost like having two completely different meals—proving once again that you can never go back.

In the morning I as I was waiting by the Underground station to meet Sylvie for a coaching session, and as everyone was milling around and walking by, I suddenly saw everyone as levels of consciousness walking by (as opposed to personalities.). A strange feeling but a really incredible one.

I met Sylvie for the coaching call I owed her. She had flown in from Morzine in the French Alps (not for me; she has property here she had to take care of); she is the one who gave me that great healing there. It was really a pleasure to be with her, she’s a beautiful person and I think she gained something from the session.

Being with Sylvie is like trying to tame a hurricane, but when she’s working as a healer she transforms into the eye; she becomes a brilliant, totally focused, calm person.

Then it was on to St. Albans to be with the amazing Chantal Burns, who is writing a business book about the principles that sounds really exciting.

Lucky me, I was able to take a 2-hour nap so I would be awake enough to do a session for 20+ people on New Perspectives on Well-Being and Wisdom.

I was really happy with how that session came out. Great feeling and people seemed to love it.

Amazingly, Chantal’s house is the last house I am staying at on this trip, and I appreciate it so much. The 2 nights I have left I am staying in hotels.

By the way, now I think what happened to me last night is funny.

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European Tour Day 63: Relationships and Parenting

Day 63, May 1.

I can’t believe it’s May. I left home in Vermont in the winter, the last day of February, and it’s May?! That’s a long time to be on the road away from home.

I had a terrible night’s sleep, perhaps the worst of my trip. Plus my back really hurt this morning. But, oh well, I had to rally because I had a training to run on Relationships and Parenting for 15+ people. I made it through okay.

I think it went well—certainly a bunch of people came up to me afterwards to tell me how much they loved it.

The part I wasn’t sure about was that usually I have to encourage people to talk and ask questions; in this one there was an overabundance of talking—a few people almost totally monopolized the conversation and it was hard even for me to get a word in edgewise.

For the last segment I had to just say that I wanted to hear from the people who hadn’t said anything yet, and that kind of got things back on track.

All in all it went well, judging by the response.

Jack Pransky and Janet LindsayTony and Steve were again wonderful hosts—it was great hanging out with them. And Janet and I seem to have a special connection, but she probably does with everyone; she’s that kind of person.

When we hit the train station I hopped right onto the train to London Victoria station, then had to negotiate my way through the underground on the Circle (Yellow) line to get off at the High Street Kensington stop. Then I had to find my way to the hotel that Teal had arranged for me, which is a nice place for an inexpensive rate, but they stuck me on the very top floor (4 flights up with no elevator lugging up my heavy bags), and I can’t get internet service way up there and I’ve got a lot of logistical arrangements to take care of. I also was really looking forward to just settling in with a Netflix movie. Oh well…

Speaking of Netflix, I highly recommend a foreign film called The Hunt, which is about the power of thought and “reality” gone wrong.

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