Role modeling provides the most influence in child rearing. As sensible human beings, our children pay more attention to what we do than what we say. They know that people’s behavior tells you what they believe in.
How we are in life tells our children what is “realistic”. If we are lighthearted and easy-going, our children see that as realistic in life. If we are grim and serious they conclude that that is the nature of life.
We would do well to remember that 100% of our children's observations of us are when we are with them. We might be happy and lighthearted when we're not with them; but if we are stressed and serious around them, then that is the role model that they see.
Any parent that gains an understanding of The Three Principles of Mind, Thought and Consciousness will become more resilient as a parent. Children will pick up on this resilience and head in that direction themselves. All we have to see is that any feelings of stress and unhappiness are just our momentary thoughts translated into a feeling. If we see that it is in the nature of thought to be transitory, temporary, and illusory then we will see how quickly these thoughts of stress and distress passed through our minds uneventfully.
It is most natural for us to enjoy parenting. This is very to easy to see when looking at the joy that grandparents experience in being with their grandchildren. Grandparents pick up on the innocence, love and joy that are so abundant in children. Those treasures are there for parents to see as well and we do see them when our vision is not obscured by all the thoughts of the “serious responsibilities” of parenting.
Parenting is too important to be taken seriously! When we get out from under our serious thoughts and feelings, we will see the wisdom available to guide us in our parenting. Guaranteed.
In short, it is the role modeling that matters!