Debbie Ford, Thank You.

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A great woman, friend and mentor, Debbie Ford departed this week, as her sister Arielle said, "into the waiting arms of her ancestors and guardian angels."  I'll miss her. She played such a big part in my life the last 8 years that it's hard to think of her without feeling her shimmering aliveness.

Debbie's list of accomplishments are long. The newscasts and eulogies are reminders of how one woman with a heart bigger than her whole body, can actually change the world. But you could never list it all.  Her life was dedicated to all of us.  Her impact was massive. She flung herself out there in order to give us back ourselves. And left this world peopled with unspeakably precious gifts.

I want to say Thank You to a woman who blessed my life, who practically saved my life, and who left me with so much to be grateful for.

I found Debbie reading "Dark Side of The Light Chasers." A light went on inside me. Many more insights followed during my time training with her, assisting at the Shadow Process and hanging out.  And what I most recall now are lessons I learned from her realness and her humanness.

In the time I was honored to be with her, she helped me see:

You will never be rid of your foibles. Give up trying.

You can only be yourself. You have no choice. 

The only problem is you think that "yourself" is awful. And it is. But it is also beautiful.

Half the people will dislike you no matter what you do, the other half will love you no matter what you do.  Get on with your work.

You don't have to settle for "surviving."

Beyond your comfort zone is your life.

Tell the truth and listen well to the truth about yourself from others. You'll get used to it.

Let It All be bigger than you are. You are Divine.  Can't handle that? Though shit.

Everything you ever struggled with is going to help someone.

No matter who you think you are, you are way more. And then some.


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Thank you, Debbie, for all of this and for ...

the people who are in my life only becuase of you

the healings and insights I had because of you

the way I can be with myself and others because of you

and the roads I never would have taken, were it not for you.

I Love You.

Debbie's interview with Oprah will replay this Sunday February 24th

Debbie Ford, Thank You.

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A great woman, friend and mentor, Debbie Ford departed this week, as her sister Arielle said, "into the waiting arms of her ancestors and guardian angels."  I'll miss her. She played such a big part in my life the last 8 years that it's hard to think of her without feeling her shimmering aliveness.

Debbie's list of accomplishments are long. The newscasts and eulogies are reminders of how one woman with a heart bigger than her whole body, can actually change the world. But you could never list it all.  Her life was dedicated to all of us.  Her impact was massive. She flung herself out there in order to give us back ourselves. And left this world peopled with unspeakably precious gifts.

I want to say Thank You to a woman who blessed my life, who practically saved my life, and who left me with so much to be grateful for.

I found Debbie reading "Dark Side of The Light Chasers." A light went on inside me. Many more insights followed during my time training with her, assisting at the Shadow Process and hanging out.  And what I most recall now are lessons I learned from her realness and her humanness.

In the time I was honored to be with her, she helped me see:

You will never be rid of your foibles. Give up trying.

You can only be yourself. You have no choice. 

The only problem is you think that "yourself" is awful. And it is. But it is also beautiful.

Half the people will dislike you no matter what you do, the other half will love you no matter what you do.  Get on with your work.

You don't have to settle for "surviving."

Beyond your comfort zone is your life.

Tell the truth and listen well to the truth about yourself from others. You'll get used to it.

Let It All be bigger than you are. You are Divine.  Can't handle that? Though shit.

Everything you ever struggled with is going to help someone.

No matter who you think you are, you are way more. And then some.


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Thank you, Debbie, for all of this and for ...

the people who are in my life only becuase of you

the healings and insights I had because of you

the way I can be with myself and others because of you

and the roads I never would have taken, were it not for you.

I Love You.

Debbie's interview with Oprah will replay this Sunday February 24th

Memories of Valentine’s Past

It’s Valentine’s Day 2013, I’m reminded of a small silver charm in the shape of a heart with an arrow that spun around stopping near the words: no, maybe, yes. I was about 13 maybe. I’m now 59, the same age my mother was when she passed away. That gift touched me, I don’t recall getting any other Valentine’s gift from my parents; I wish I could ask her why that year?
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It pleases me that I had this fond memory, yet I feel sorry that I didn’t know then what I’ve come to know now. I would have had more tender moments with my mother then; because I would not have judged her so negatively. I would have known how detrimental that is to a relationship. I would have felt compassion instead. I would have known why she said the things she said so her words wouldn’t hurt me. I would have known why she did the things she did so her actions wouldn’t hurt me. I would have known that her words and behaviors came from how she thought about life and things, and I wouldn’t have taken it all so personally.

If my mother had known about the 3 Principles she would have recognized that her own thinking was causing her anguish and then she would not have lashed out at me. She would have known to quiet her mind down before speaking to me. Had she understood the nature of thought and reality explained by the 3 Principles, she would have been more compassionate and understanding with me because she would have known that my words and behaviors were the result of my insecurities. People change from the inside-out as their understanding increases; I’ve witnessed it in myself and in my clients and colleagues. Behaviors and communication improves naturally and automatically as people gain this understanding.

I wonder what it would be like to grow up in a family where there was no judgment, and no negativity. The miracle is that future generations can learn how to do that! The explanation is in understanding how 3 simple Principles work within everyone. There are now books for all ages that explain these Principles. There’s even a book out now for young children, calledWhat’s a Thought. There are free webinars and podcasts, available to everyone, explaining the nature of thought, why everything we think looks so real and how to avoid acting on unhealthy thoughts that will cause a bigger problem. As you read, watch or listen to these resources you’ll begin to see it for yourself. We call that an insight — seeing from within. Permanent positive change occurs through insight. By taking the time to explore further, you will give yourself the greatest gift of your life. You’ll see that love is always the answer and you’ll automatically find yourself in a state of love rather than judgement, just by virtue of finding out how the 3 Principles play out in life. As your understanding deepens so will your experience of love and you’ll notice the people around you will respond differently to you.

Memories of Valentine’s Past

It’s Valentine’s Day 2013, I’m reminded of a small silver charm in the shape of a heart with an arrow that spun around stopping near the words: no, maybe, yes. I was about 13 maybe. I’m now 59, the same age my mother was when she passed away. That gift touched me, I don’t recall getting any other Valentine’s gift from my parents; I wish I could ask her why that year?

J.A.Kashmann, photo

It pleases me that I had this fond memory, yet I feel sorry that I didn’t know then what I’ve come to know now. I would have had more tender moments with my mother then; because I would not have judged her so negatively. I would have known how detrimental that is to a relationship. I would have felt compassion instead. I would have known why she said the things she said so her words wouldn’t hurt me. I would have known why she did the things she did so her actions wouldn’t hurt me. I would have known that her words and behaviors came from how she thought about life and things, and I wouldn’t have taken it all so personally.

If my mother had known about the 3 Principles she would have recognized that her own thinking was causing her anguish and then she would not have lashed out at me. She would have known to quiet her mind down before speaking to me. Had she understood the nature of thought and reality explained by the 3 Principles, she would have been more compassionate and understanding with me because she would have known that my words and behaviors were the result of my insecurities. People change from the inside-out as their understanding increases; I’ve witnessed it in myself and in my clients and colleagues. Behaviors and communication improves naturally and automatically as people gain this understanding.

I wonder what it would be like to grow up in a family where there was no judgment, and no negativity. The miracle is that future generations can learn how to do that! The explanation is in understanding how 3 simple Principles work within everyone. There are now books for all ages that explain these Principles. There’s even a book out now for young children, called What’s a Thought. There are free webinars and podcasts, available to everyone, explaining the nature of thought, why everything we think looks so real and how to avoid acting on unhealthy thoughts that will cause a bigger problem. As you read, watch or listen to these resources you’ll begin to see it for yourself. We call that an insight — seeing from within. Permanent positive change occurs through insight. By taking the time to explore further, you will give yourself the greatest gift of your life. You’ll see that love is always the answer and you’ll automatically find yourself in a state of love rather than judgement, just by virtue of finding out how the 3 Principles play out in life. As your understanding deepens so will your experience of love and you’ll notice the people around you will respond differently to you.

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Wisdom of the Week

There is nothing else but thought, except in those moments of no thought.

People tell me I need to clarify this, so I’ll try. The only thing that can ever give us an experience is our own thinking. But what exists in the seconds or microseconds in between thoughts? I would say it’s pure consciousness–consciousness uncontaminated by our thinking. It’s the formless energy of Mind becoming One with our consciousness in the purest form we can experience it. It’s pure peace of mind, pure love, the incubation space for pure wisdom to come through, and the ability to have thought waiting to happen. Yes, we can only have an experience of the “pure”t through Thought, but that is already contaminating it somewhat. However,  in those moments when our mind does shut down and our thoughts clear, what is left? Something way bigger than thought.

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