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Frank GerrytsThis site is dedicated to sharing the inside-out understanding of the Three Principles, as originally uncovered by Sydney Banks.

We have gathered together posts from other Three Principles blogs as well as our own ones. As time goes on we will be offering more services based on the Canadian West Coast and nearby islands. Look out for events and feel free to contact me to let me know about any events you think will be of interest to others in this area.

Application Versus Understanding (aka A Change of Heart)

I often tell clients, readers, or groups: “If you’re applying a method or strategy , you haven’t learned or changed. And someone else’s method or strategy can’t make you learn or change.” This video further explores this important distinction.

Garret

Attacking a Symptom

I’m going to talk about prejudice or bigotry because it’s a hot, and important, topic these days. However, this article could easily be about bullying, road rage, abuse, or war. 

But first, l want to be sure that you and I agree on something: Treating symptoms does not get to the root cause of a particular disorder. For example, if a person keeps experiencing headaches, taking Advil cannot cure the cause of the recurring symptom (headaches). Agreed? Good. 

Now that my simplistic illustration is out of the way, here’s an intricate question regarding prejudice: Why, in spite of a myriad of well-meaning and courageous demonstrations throughout history, does prejudice still exist in the world? The answer is that, like headaches, prejudice is a symptom. It is not a cause. 

In other words, people write books, take part in marches, make movies and music, and even kneel during the national anthem in a valiant effort to wipe this scourge off the face of the earth. But it keeps rearing its ugly head. And, sadly, it will continue to do so until we address this root cause: 

The illusion or lie that what a person feels is connected to another person or circumstance.

To demonstrate, let’s say a stranger strolls through a town, while at the same time the people of the town start to experience the normal human feelings of insecurity or fear. Now, if townspeople don’t know that these feelings (all feelings) can only originate from within—it’s impossible for one’s feelings to be caused by a circumstance on the outside—there’s a good chance that they’ll form a connection that doesn’t exist: They’ll blame the stranger for their insecurity or fear. And since they don’t want to feel that way, they’ll attack what they think is the cause—the stranger. The trouble, of course, is that they’re attacking something that has nothing to do with their insecurity or fear. But because they don’t understand that, they’ll keep attacking in a never-ending quest to feel better.

In short, the outside-in misunderstanding is the only thing that causes prejudice. That’s why all forms of prejudice can be traced back to a person who has blamed his or her low state of mind on another. Can one person’s skin color, gender, or sexual orientation make another person feel bad? Right now, you probably say no. Yet, in the heat of a depressed feeling state (and we all get them), how often do you look around and pin it on someone or something else? That answer for all of us is: way too often.

Here, then, is my bottom-line inquiry regarding prejudice: Are you truly willing to do your part to help wipe this scourge off the face of the earth? If yes, it’s time to stop railing against prejudice, a symptom, and start taking into consideration—and guiding others toward—the root cause. For those who deeply understand that their feelings are solely connected to the ebb and flow of their own thinking, the act of prejudice toward another human being (like bullying, road rage, abuse, or war) is entirely out of the question.

 

Why It’s Essential to Know that Your Feelings are Linked to Thought, Not Circumstance

Here’s a quick video about the creative process (how all of us create our feelings, perceptions, and experiences). And why understanding this process is so important. Have a great rest of the week.

Garret

 

Being Fooled No More – Bryan Ryan

A client of mine came to see me not so long ago, she was binge eating on food, and putting on a lot of weight.

It was clear from our conversation that she was living with a lot of anxiety, fear and pain in her life, and she said that, “the only time that I feel good in any way, is when I am eating all this food”.

She is doing all of this eating because she thinks that it’s the food that is giving her some sort of relief from the pain  and suffering that she is experiencing.

This is the typical, innocent story that I hear all the time from my clients, whether it’s the food, or the alcohol, or the cigarettes, or the gambling, it’s their way of getting a small bit of relief from the daily drudgery that becomes their life.

Except it’s not the food or the booze or the fags that’s making them feel better, and this is where the innocence comes in, what has caused them to feel better, is quite simply, that their thinking has changed, because the only thing that creates feelings is our thinking, 100%, as a fact of life.

Can it be this simple? Are we really doing all of this stuff because we misunderstand where our feelings and emotions are coming from? Yes and yes.

This misunderstanding that we have all grown up with has caused us all a lot of problems, to say the least, because the truth about what really causes our emotions and feelings, goes across the board, and is true for all areas of our lives.

In our innocence we contaminate an already there, beautiful and peaceful feeling, by believing that it’s our circumstances that cause us to feel anxiety or fear, or a family member that’s treating us a certain way causing us pain, or finances, bully at work, the list goes on and on.

This singular mis-understanding , it could be said, is the cause of all conflict in the world, and we are only starting to wake up to this fact, as this information spreads, and changes people’s lives in un-thought-of ways.

We really are only one thought away from feeling better in any moment, and that’s a fact, whether we know it or not. 

If we know it and understand it deeply, the game changes overnight, the trick that fooled us all, time after time, just does not have the same effect on us anymore.

This change, which comes with the understanding, is the “contamination” falling away, and what’s left is the peaceful, contented feeling that is hard wired within all of us, as the sun shines through when the haze disintegrates.

It’s like if on the news some day they said that “we have just discovered that the world is in fact round, and not flat as we thought it was” or “great news, we have just discovered it’s the sun that is the centre of the universe, not the earth”

 

  

 

 

Being Fooled No More – Bryan Ryan

A client of mine came to see me not so long ago, she was binge eating on food, and putting on a lot of weight.

It was clear from our conversation that she was living with a lot of anxiety, fear and pain in her life, and she said that, “the only time that I feel good in any way, is when I am eating all this food”.

She is doing all of this eating because she thinks that it’s the food that is giving her some sort of relief from the pain  and suffering that she is experiencing.

This is the typical, innocent story that I hear all the time from my clients, whether it’s the food, or the alcohol, or the cigarettes, or the gambling, it’s their way of getting a small bit of relief from the daily drudgery that becomes their life.

Except it’s not the food or the booze or the fags that’s making them feel better, and this is where the innocence comes in, what has caused them to feel better, is quite simply, that their thinking has changed, because the only thing that creates feelings is our thinking, 100%, as a fact of life.

Can it be this simple? Are we really doing all of this stuff because we misunderstand where our feelings and emotions are coming from? Yes and yes.

This misunderstanding that we have all grown up with has caused us all a lot of problems, to say the least, because the truth about what really causes our emotions and feelings, goes across the board, and is true for all areas of our lives.

In our innocence we contaminate an already there, beautiful and peaceful feeling, by believing that it’s our circumstances that cause us to feel anxiety or fear, or a family member that’s treating us a certain way causing us pain, or finances, bully at work, the list goes on and on.

This singular mis-understanding , it could be said, is the cause of all conflict in the world, and we are only starting to wake up to this fact, as this information spreads, and changes people’s lives in un-thought-of ways.

We really are only one thought away from feeling better in any moment, and that’s a fact, whether we know it or not. 

If we know it and understand it deeply, the game changes overnight, the trick that fooled us all, time after time, just does not have the same effect on us anymore.

This change, which comes with the understanding, is the “contamination” falling away, and what’s left is the peaceful, contented feeling that is hard wired within all of us, as the sun shines through when the haze disintegrates.

It’s like if on the news some day they said that “we have just discovered that the world is in fact round, and not flat as we thought it was” or “great news, we have just discovered it’s the sun that is the centre of the universe, not the earth”

 

  

 

 

In Response to your Comments, Another Look at “Culture”

It’s been an interesting week since I posted my video on the pitfalls of promoting a specific culture within your team, organization, or family. In all my years of sharing this work, I’ve experienced backlash, but never like this. Here, then, is one more try.

Garret

Availability of Sydney Banks’ Books

We have recently learned that The Missing Link and The Enlightened Gardener are now available as digital downloads on itunes! It is so wonderful to see Syd’s books becoming more widely accessible, as was his dream. The power of these original materials to help humanity cannot be overstated.

We have no information about other digital formats, but will let you know if we hear anything about that possibility.

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