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The Confidence Trap

While watching Golf Channel’s coverage of the Scottish Open during my hour in the gym on Friday morning, I heard the word CONFIDENCE mentioned thirty-four times by commentators (that’s right, after hearing it repeatedly when I first tuned in, I actually decided to count). Over and over again, the importance of feeling confident was stressed:

“It’s amazing what holing a few putts will do for your confidence.”

“This kind of course ignites his confidence.”

“What does your recent string of good finishes do for your confidence?”

My goodness. Since, from where I sit, chasing confidence is the ultimate mind trap, let’s reverse course. Believe it or not, confidence has NOTHING to do with past performance, environment, or any external circumstance. Confidence, or a lack thereof, springs from the uncontrollable principle of thought. When thought freely flows through you, you’ll feel confident. When thought becomes jammed, you won’t. And, again, this cause-and-effect connection between thought and confidence cannot be influenced by holing putts, a particular kind of golf course, a string of good finishes, or anything external.

Now, I’m plenty aware that many readers will disagree with this inside-out take on confidence. So, if that includes you, here are two questions to ponder:

  1. Why do the most accomplished people often feel insecure?
  2. Why do young children often feel confident?

See what I mean? Confidence is strictly an inner phenomenon. And, like young children, the closer you get to the inner knowledge that confidence comes and goes as thought comes and goes, the less and less your level of confidence will even matter to you.

Last of all, as mentioned above, you don’t control your thinking or whether or not you feel confident in the moment. But that’s not bad news because: Confidence has NOTHING to do with your capacity to excel. In other words, all feelings are normal and no feeling is limiting. Therefore, don’t fall into the trap of chasing, or wasting energy trying to manage, something that’s essentially meaningless. Confident or not, you are strong, resilient, and oh so capable—always.

Garret

One Size Fits All

Here’s a brief article to make an important distinction that will help you better understand, and serve, others: Although many will say the opposite, when it comes to the human mind and body—one size, in fact, does fit all.

Oh, I know it doesn’t look that way. It appears, for example, that no two golfers swing the club the same way, just like it appears that one person’s psychological issues are different from another’s. But what we’re actually seeing are effects, byproducts, or symptoms of the same inner phenomenon playing out differently for each of us. In other words, kinetically our bodies all work the same, and spiritually our minds all work the same. We just seem separate because, outwardly, no two people share the identical physical characteristics or life circumstances.

So why is this distinction important to consider? Well, if you’re a helper (and we all are) and you address personal symptoms—i.e., part of a golfer’s swing that seems out of whack, or a suffering person’s past that seems troubling—you’re not addressing the root. For golfers, the root is how, universally, the human body moves and generates power. When the swing goes astray, golfers simply lose touch with the fundamental principles of movement. For all of us when we suffer, the root is that we’re seeking answers (causes of and cures for our feelings) outside—such as in the past. A suffering person has simply lost touch with the fundamental principle that feelings can only be fashioned internally.

Yes, one size does fit all. The human body moves one way. The human mind works one way. Don’t be blinded by, or cater to, the physical facade of separateness and try to help others by digging into what’s personal. Rather, resolutely point inward to what’s true across the board for everyone—to “oneness.” Salvation is found there.

Thank you!

The feeling was deep and rich, as individuals from Canada, the US, UK, Mexico, Australia, Norway, and Hong Kong came together to experience the spiritual understanding that is the Three Principles, uncovered by Sydney Banks. Each of you made the School what it was, sharing your energy and wisdom for the good of all.

Video excerpts from this session will be available soon on our YouTube channel, as well as on this website and our Facebook page.

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Twelve Inside-Out Myths for You to Consider

Note: This week’s article is primarily for my students. But I strongly encourage all of you to read on and reach out with questions.

As you guys know, on this blog practically every week, I write about the Inside-Out understanding or paradigm. As a change of pace this week, let’s dispel a few common myths (as I see them) that hover around this understanding. Sound okay? Hold on to your hat—here goes:

Myth #1: You’re feelings aren’t caused by your circumstances; they’re caused by your thoughts about your circumstances.

Not so. Feelings are the residue or aftereffect of the universal principle of THOUGHT (divine energy). Not what you think about—that’s personal and occurs after you have a feeling. In other words, thought, then feeling occurs. The intellect then looks outside in a quest to decipher the feeling and makes it about something. Although it never really is.

Myth #2: Your thoughts can’t hurt you unless you give them power.

Not so. The thoughts that pop into your head (what you think or the content of your thinking) have no power. Plus, you don’t possess the ability give them power. Power? That’s found in the principle of thought.

Myth #3: You mustn’t make important decisions while in a low mood (aka, let your low moods pass).

Not so. All moods are normal and no mood controls you. Meaning, a mood can’t obstruct or enhance your ability to love, serve, care, excel, or make prudent decisions. This too shall pass? Nah, nothing needs to pass. You’re fine no matter what you are feeling.

Myth #4: It’s helpful to be aware of your state of mind.

Not so. Awareness is an effect, not a cause. Want awareness? Understand that even though it won’t often feel this way, both your circumstances and state of mind are neutral. Therefore, they don’t need to be worked on, fixed, or deliberately adjusted.

Myth #5: Your mindset is a performance variable.

Not so. While it’s true that your mindset (mood, feeling state, state of mind) is innately variable, it is not a performance variable. Your capacity to perform is an unwavering constant.

Myth #6: You don’t control the thoughts that occur to you, but you do control which thoughts you follow.

Not so. You don’t control the thoughts that occur to you, spot on. Yet, you will follow, or not follow, your thoughts to the extent that you understand that they are meaningless or untrue. And, while we’re on the subject, this understanding is also something that’s not in your control.

Myth #7: Sharing personal stories about the life situations you overcame as a result of the IO paradigm is helpful to others.

Not so. Sharing your own story regarding how you stumbled into this work is often helpful to others because everyone stumbles into this work and is impacted by it. However, HOW you were impacted is personal and better left alone. As John Steinbeck once said: “A great and interesting story is about everyone, or it will not last.”

Myth #8: Your grounding is different than my grounding.

Not so. Every person alive is grounded in Truth, God, or Love. No one understands the IO paradigm better than anyone else. The fact that experience is created from inside to out rests in all of us equally.

Myth #9: Your feelings don’t come from other people or anything external; they come from you.

Not so. You (like other people, places, events, and things) are on the outside. The variable nature of your feelings comes from the divine principle of thought. Who or what controls this divine principle? You guessed it: the intelligence of the universe or God. That’s the inside.

Myth #10: Free will and God’s will are separate.

Not so. Free will means that your will is free from the contamination of others. It’s not about choice or a practice you apply. Know that God is running the show and your will is truly free.

Myth #11: The Inside-Out understanding represents a community.

Not so. The IO understanding is purely a MOVEMENT. Sure, communities are wonderful. They’re generally happy places where people gather for camaraderie and fun. But that’s not this. What we have here is a paradigm—a truth—that can, will, and has saved lives. Remember: Gandhi, Martin Luther King Jr., and Sydney Banks didn’t lead communities where folks came to socialize. They spearheaded movements. They kept the main thing (the purpose behind their movements) the main thing and hence changed the world.

Myth #12: Love is the answer.

This last myth, for me, is a tough one (that’s why I didn’t follow it with “not so”), and here’s what I mean: On a personal basis, it often looks to me that love is the cause of everything good in the world. However, when pointing others to the IO paradigm, it’s simply not helpful to focus too much on love and other “touchy-feely-type” sentiments (e.g., compassion, happiness, acceptance, gratitude, or forgiveness). These sentiments are wonderful, but, in truth, they’re compounds or effects that shouldn’t be offered up as causes or places to get or feeling states to achieve. Rather, stick to this fundamental question: Do you know where your feelings are coming from? As you and others begin to see that feelings are generated internally, and happen independent of people, places, and things made of matter—you can rest assured that love will effortlessly emerge.

There’s the list. I welcome any and all questions. In fact, I can’t wait to hear from you!

Love,

Garret

Summer Like a Kid – Cherie Ray, MLA

Have you played outside?  It’s summer!  What’cha waiting on?

Recently, I was sitting at an airport waiting for my luggage to arrive… on the NEXT flight.  My bags weren’t loaded onto my plane.  As I waited, it occurred to me that I could sit and seethe about this inconvenience or I could see what else was available to me. As I found a place to use my $10 inconvenience meal voucher, I settled in to wait. To be transparent, waiting is not my strong suit!

While I waited, I started noticing how many families were moving through the airport. There were kids of every age, shape, and size. I also noticed how distinctly different the experience of moving through the airport was for the adults versus the kiddos.  This got me interested in observing kids.  Since this felt so fresh and new, I was intrigued.  As I watched a big population of passing kids, I observed:

They play.

They talk.

They yell out, Daddy!

They jump for no reason.

They eat.

They sleep.

The sing.

They lead.

They follow.

They seem to grow before your eyes.

They fall out of chairs and scream.

They get a hug and go back to playing.

They wear barrettes.

They wear sweats.

They catch a ride on a leg.

They find a toy in everything.

They look at life with eyes wide open.

As I watched, I got curious about what happens to that easy going, adventurous spirit that seems so natural to the kids.  It didn’t take long before I saw how naturally kids show up and move with the flow of life, at the speed of life.  In a flash, it occurred to me that an invitation was being extended to me to do summer more like a kid and less like a bothered, inconvenienced adult.  Surprisingly, after accepting the invitation, gratitude for the delay showed up, out of the blue.

 

Cherie Ray, MLA, is a 3P coach/consultant for individuals, families, and businesses where collaboration and creativity are elemental to success.

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An Innocent Trick of the Mind

How often do you fall for this innocent trick of the mind: You attribute what you’re feeling on the inside to what just happened in your life on the outside?

We all do it. In fact, this process happens so fast that, almost always, we overlook that feelings actually come FIRST—and then we pin them on a particular life event, person, or circumstance.

Consider, for example, the gloom that tends to coexist with rainy days. Sure, it appears that rainy days cause gloomy feelings. But take a closer look. Do you always feel gloomy when it rains? Of course, you don’t. Meaning, the weather doesn’t cause gloomy feelings. Your feeling state (inside) precedes the world that you see (outside).

You might now be wondering: “Okay, that makes sense; but since the world outside doesn’t cause my feelings, what does? Feelings, like gloom, just don’t crop up on their own.”

Indeed, they don’t.

What causes feelings is THOUGHT. Thought is responsible for your feeling state, and from there—based on the form thought takes in the moment—the world looks gloomy or bright; negative or hopeful; intimidating or friendly.

Lastly, as the title of this article suggests, when it comes to your thinking, feelings, and perceptions, you are always completely innocent. No one controls this trick of the mind. Therefore, it’s not wrong for it to appear that what happens on the outside determines what you feel on the inside. It’s not even wrong to blame your feelings on life events, people, or circumstances. However, your ace in the hole, your salvation, is knowing that no matter how much it looks like you work from out to in—you never, ever, do.

Reality is strictly a one-way process. Thought generates feeling, causing your view on life. You’re innately resilient because a trick of the mind is only problematic if you accept it as real.

Garret

European Tour – A heartwarming end of the tour

June 12. Monday into Tuesday.

The last day of the training began in the morning with Yoga again, thanks to Mark. Then the complete gratification of our final insight-sharing period and closing circle, so heartfelt, so moving, so loving and, most important, witnessing the changes that have taken place in people’s lives, especially in those who have been doing these trainings with me and us before.

John, who had to leave early, a miracle, completely off the charts, sending in an email letter that Sheela read to everyone.

Sally, also off the charts after her lifetime addiction to alcohol, feeling so much more self-confidence.

Holly, feeling and looking so solid now—so beautiful to see.

Richard, having come through all his pain and now feeling so much more grounded (he achieved a very prestigious award in Sweden for his accomplishments in music, poetry and more).

Amanda, who showed up only for the last day, but showed her enormous, almost unbelievable resilience after her house burned down and she lost everything.

Michael, moving from his prior continual questioning to becoming very grounded.

Katja, who used to live her life in fear with all kinds of ailments, now a healthy, inspiring teacher of the Principles.

I could go on and on. To a person, everyone there, even those for whom this training with us was the first, said they loved this training retreat, and everyone seemed to have insights and got so much out of it for themselves. So humbling. These people are truly wonderful.

And I can’t even tell you how inspiring it was to work with Gabriela again. She’s the best. And to think I came into this new (for me) topic with trepidation. And then it was over—except it wasn’t. Because after going to the beach, and after I got a massage from Amanda, we all went out to dinner together in the beautiful little town of Altea, up to the outdoor balcony of a restaurant with its spectacular views. Then we said our heartfelt good-byes.

After that, I packed up late into the night, had to get up again almost immediately at 2:50 AM to catch a 6:30 AM flight from Alicante, caught a cab with Richard and we both ended up on the same flight to Stockholm, where we bid each other farewell. I had an almost 4 hour layover there—way too long—and then a 9 hour flight—way too long. And I flew back across the ocean to home, getting almost no sleep. My son, Dave and his girlfriend, Josie, picked me up at the airport, we had a nice dinner, then I drove home getting in around 10:30 PM, completely exhausted. I can’t believe I’m home. And thus I end another European Trip and blog. Another incredible trip. I’ve got the greatest job in the world.

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European Tour – Last training day

June 11. Sunday.

Last full day of training. Hard to believe. It has been a spectacular trip. Really couldn’t have been much better.

The day began when I woke up and knew the direction we had to go in the training today; how to focus on the formless/essence/Oneness end of the spectrum. And when I told Gabriela about it, she concurred. And it did work out wonderfully.

I love going in this powerful direction, and it is a direction that, in my view (and in the view of research), is often not focused on enough in Three Principles teaching and coaching. This is a very close-knit group, and it is a pleasure to be around these people.

But before the training day began, I had asked Michael, who runs a gym, if he would give me some hints about how to use the small weights I had bought at home, because I had never lifted weights in my life, never got any instruction, and realize in my old age that I’d better start, as I can feel myself getting weaker every year. I looked for him in the morning and found him in the little gym at the hotel. While assessing me, he saw what I’ve known for the longest time, that my hamstrings are inordinately tight. I knew I was in trouble when he asked me how my pain tolerance is. When I said something like, “Not bad,” he had me lie on the floor face down and proceeded to rip every fiber of my hamstring muscles apart. Whoa that hurt! I had to do La Maz breathing just to get through it. But I felt lighter when I got up (after I punched him in the faceonly kidding).

That afternoon most of us went to the beach again, and I took another 20 minute swim in the Mediterranean. Gorgeous!

The two other beautiful things that happened were that everyone had signed birthday cards for me and Sheela, jumping the gun for me by 8 days (and Katja said in Germany it is really bad luck to open a birthday card early, but I ignored that superstition and we’ll see if I make it to the 19th), and people wrote such nice things to me in that card it really moved me. They brought it out in our evening session with candles stuck in ice cream, and my favorite flavor here at that: Straciatella, along with Sheela’s favorite, Limon sorbet, which we shared with everyone.

The day was capped off with Lise singing to us, and talk about being moved! Lise is one of the best singers I have heard. Such incredible talent. All I can do is shake my head.

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European Tour – Up on the roof and in the sea

June 9 & 10. Friday and Saturday.

Yoga Mark began the day with Yoga on the roof. Beautiful up there in the morning overlooking the mountains. Wonderful way to start the day. Mark ran it both days, in fact, but for some reason I thought he was skipping a day, so I missed Yoga on Saturday. Instead I decided to walk/run up to the lighthouse and back. We then met for the training day.

On Friday we spent a day longer than I’d anticipated understanding what the personal is and why it subtly and insidiously has such a grip on us. The group itself went in and out of personal thinking themselves, and we could watch the ebb and flow of the feeling in the group, accordingly. Mostly, everyone seemed in a good feeling. This was helped immeasurably by the structure of the retreat, as again most of us spent the afternoon at the beach. I took a dip in the Mediterranean; the sea water felt great.

On the way to the beach that day, Richard, Holly and I stopped for some gelato and had a really lovely conversation. Then Friday night, after our evening session I went to dinner with Gabriela in a restaurant by the sea with the gorgeous full moon rising over the still-blue sea. We were supposed to be planning, and we did—at little. Delightful.

Then Lise led us through one of her glorious singing workshops. This time I took the plunge and sang a wonderful song a friend of mine wrote called Children So Long. I was amazed that I had felt so confident singing it on the beach in Florida away from everyone, but as soon as I got up to sing in front of the group, the personal crept in and I got really nervous. But I made it through, with Lise’s assistance. She is so good at what she does; everyone left Lise’s session feeling wonderful.

The next morning in the training retreat came my favorite part of the retreat thus far, as we talked about insights that people had, which lead to a spectacular with a beautiful feeling.

After the break we talked about what transcending means, and again didn’t get as far as I would have liked. During the very long afternoon break I talked with one of the participants who needed extra help, then we joined the others on the beach, where I took a long swim. How great is this!

Then we all went out to a new Japanese Restaurant and I completely pigged out, and as I write this I am terribly full. As of this moment I am also baffled about what to do tomorrow. Gab and I figure we’ll start with their insights again tomorrow morning and hope something comes to us, because I’m not sure that what I had planned earlier is still relevant.

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Winning the U.S. Open in the Battlefield of the Mind—How Far We’ve Come

On June 8, 1986, Bob Rotella, a pioneer in the field of sport psychology, wrote an insightful New York Times article titled: “Winning the U.S. Open in the Battlefield of the Mind.” Although I was quite young when I read it, the article captivated me (the original clipping still remains in a scrapbook that resides in my attic). In fact, looking back, this very piece of writing helped spark my life-long interest in the human mind and spirit, not to mention the great game of golf.

Last week, for some reason, I decided to reread the article after all these years. And what I discovered is how dramatically the field of mental performance has evolved since 1986. So, to illustrate this evolution, I’ve listed below nine takeaways from the article, and then discussed where the field, in my opinion, is at today. What you’ll find is that back in 1986, mental performance had yet to be introduced to the unwavering principle that golfers (and all human beings) work strictly from inside to out. Those in the field had yet to consider that states of mind are innately variable, have nothing to do with environment, and regardless of a player’s state of mind and how life looks to him at that moment in time, he is 100 percent whole and capable.

Here, then, are those nine takeaways, compared to how I see things currently. Hopefully, you’ll find my stance on the evolution of mental performance helpful. If you don’t quite grasp where I’m pointing, feel free to reach out. I’d be happy to bring you up to speed.

  1. To win the U.S. Open, a player must confront and overcome psychological and emotional battles.

Now: To win the U.S. Open, a player must understand that psychological, or inner, battles need not turn into emotional, or outer, battles. Players who grasp that the variable nature (or ebb and flow) of feelings is normal don’t waste energy trying to confront or overcome something that isn’t broken and they don’t control.

  1. To win the U.S. Open, a player must develop psychological skills.

Now: To win the U.S. Open, a player must understand that he is innately resilient. The more a player works on the mental game, or tries to perfect in-born skills that cannot be improved upon, the more he shrouds his innate ability to self-correct. Every player owns a psychological immune system. Because the psychological immune system doesn’t need help to function, it’s always best to stay out of its way.

  1. To win the U.S. Open, a player must overpower his fears.

Now: To win the U.S. Open, a player must understand that fear and faith come and go within him. And that is and always will be the human experience. As alluded to earlier, whether he’s feeling fear or faith, a player’s ability to excel doesn’t waiver. In fact, the only way to obstruct the flow from fear to faith is to try to overpower fear. That holds fear in place.

  1. To win the U.S Open, a player must control self-defeating emotions like anger.

Now: To win the U.S. Open a player must understand that a feeling, anger included, cannot be abnormal. Anger can only become self-defeating if a player looks outside for circumstantial causes and strategic cures in a quest to fix it.

  1. To win the U.S. Open, a player must fight off the desire to complain and not allow the course conditions to get in his head.

Now: To win the U.S. Open, a player must understand that complaining is merely a coping strategy. And coping (managing one’s thinking or fighting one’s experience) is never in a player’s best interest. Besides, it’s not a matter of not allowing course conditions to get in a player’s head. It’s a matter of knowing that they can’t.

  1. To win the U.S. Open, a player must think positively on every shot.

Now: To win the U.S. Open, a player must understand that the content of thought, positive or negative, has no bearing on his ability to hit a desired shot. Actually, trying to think positive requires a ton of personal thought and effort. This jams the ebb and flow of the mind—which clearly is not helpful.

  1. To win the U.S. Open, a player must be unwilling to play a shot until the mind is where it must be.

Now: To win the U.S. Open, a player must understand that the mind doesn’t need to be anywhere. It will be where it will be, and, try as he might, a player cannot deliberately improve his mindset. Rather, he must hit shots regardless of mindset. If a player does not try to fix or cope, he is sure to bring out, and not shroud, his best.

  1. To win the U.S. Open, a player must have confidence in himself and his game.

Now: To win the U.S. Open, a player must understand that while confidence, like all feelings, ebbs and flows, he’s good to go (fully capable) regardless. Chase confidence and a player’s sure to go on a mind-bending wild-goose chase with no end in sight.

  1. To win the U.S. Open, a player (in contention) must not become scared by the possibility that it might get away

Now: To win the U.S. Open, a player must understand that win or lose he’ll be perfectly fine. In truth, there’s nothing in life that can get away. Thankfully, there’s a greater plan a work; a plan that human beings, even great golfers, simply don’t control.

There’s the list. We’ve come a long way from a paradigm of doing, thinking, fixing, and controlling—to one of understanding what the human experience really is and that all feelings are normal.

In other words, to win the U.S. Open in the battlefield of the mind, what a player needs to know is that the inner battle need not be conquered at all.

Enjoy the tournament,

Garret